Paying too much at the Pump?
One of the hottest trends right now is to complain, loudly – about how much it is costing us to fill up our tanks these days. Pumping gas has now become one of those stressful activities, like shopping for designer shoes – where sticker shock can literally stun you into a panic attack. And while ranting about the price of gas and listening to the varied economic reports that are prepping us for the numbers to go higher (and higher still) is definitely a conversation starter – it does bring along the opportunity for a ‘momspirational’ moment!
For one thing, let’s talk about independence. There are zillions of claims that the biggest problem with fuel inflation is our co-dependence on other nations to provide it for us. And you have to wonder, if codependency can affect gas prices, chances are it can affect mothers as well. Take a moment to see how co-dependant you are. Whom do you lean on for constant acceptance, approval, and support? Can you find these same things somewhere within yourself? One of the issues that strike moms, especially those staying home with their children, is that their level of codependence on other people in their lives becomes a mainstay – and begins to rob you of autonomy at many levels!
Here are just a few examples of typical mom codependences –
• Depending on the kids to make you feel like a ‘good mom’
• Depending on a spouse to provide financial freedom
• Depending on neighbors, friends, and family to help you with the children
• Depending on sympathy from others because you are a stay at home mom
• Depending on your status of being a mother to define who you are, what you do, and where your passions lie
It is important to be independent. If you don’t believe it, look at the toll that co-dependency in the way of fuel affects our daily lives! Through all aspects of motherhood, try to find ways to stay an individual, and specifically true to who you are.
Another important aspect of the ‘paying at the pump’ fiasco is it gives us a perfect opportunity to reflect on all of our goings, how we go, our needs versus wants, and reintroduces the ideas of enjoying the simple pleasures in life.
Let’s face it. Many of us are staying home a little more and realizing that our needs versus wants are perhaps way off kilter! It isn’t just the cost of the amusement park, movie, or bounce house that we consider – but the amount of fuel it takes to get there. (And how much we will have to pay to fill it up next time) This is a fine time to decide what is really important enough in our lives to waste a half a tank of fuel on, and more importantly how to enjoy time just ‘being’ with our families. In other words, all of us are being forced to slow down a bit, and I say instead of complaining about it, cherish the moments of togetherness, at home, in the backyard, at a neighbor's, or curled up on the living room floor eating homemade popcorn and watching Red Box rentals.
In other words, (insert screeching brakes sound), Slowwwww Dowwnnnnnnn!
As always, Blessing –