Parents Are More Powerful than Superheroes
Some suggest there are over 25,000 superheroes in the DC and Marvel worlds combined. If that’s true (and some indicate that number is actually low), there are a lot of good movies in our future.
Those movies have exploded in the past 15 years because they’re bankable profit. We love the fantasy, the escapism, the action, and we love their superpowers. But in truth, it’s more than that. We want to be like them.
We learn by imitation and we look to superheroes for guidance. They’re role models. We want to be role models, too. We may not be able to fly, nor leap tall buildings in a single bound, but being a role model is about exhibiting qualities others want to emulate.
We’re all walking, talking role models, and that’s especially true if you’re a parent. You know your kids are watching you every day. They’re watching what you say and what you do. As a parent, you’re passing down far more than your good looks and genes. You’re sharing your behaviors and habits. That’s an exciting premise.
Imagine you’re having a difficult time with something. Perhaps you’re trying to eat better, repair a relationship, or maintain self-control. If you simply cannot do it yourself, or don’t want to do it, then consider doing it for your child. Remember that children learn through imitation. They may not spend the day with you at your job, but your actions will follow you everywhere you go. They’ll see you and feel your emotion.
Doing it for someone else demonstrates that you’re putting others first in life, and what could be greater than that? You’ll be single-handedly making the world a better place, one person at a time. If you can’t start being a role model for them, someone or something else will.
To be sure, negative role models can influence children, so it’s important to watch what we say and do. We need to let our children know that inappropriate behavior, racism, sexism, and any form of abuse is wrong – and we can do that by avoiding such actions. If your behaviors haven’t been so positive, fear not. You can change that starting today.
But even if you slip-up, remember that you’re human. We all make mistakes. Role models don’t have to be perfect. Role models should own up to their mistakes, not make excuses, and apologize right away. Show your kids how to turn something negative into something positive and that’s exactly what they’ll do someday.
I love superhero movies, and although they usually win in the end, there’s a lot of struggle along the way. Share your entire self with your children – mistakes and victories – and you'll end up being the role model they really need.
Who knows, maybe someday they’ll even make a movie about you.