A Spot at the Table: Truths About Foster Care Adoption
The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption debunks the most common myths about adoption on their site:
“Myth #1: Foster care adoption may cost less than private infant or international adoption, but it’s still expensive.
Myth #2: A biological parent can come to take an adopted child back.
Myth #3: Children enter foster care because they committed a crime.
Myth #4: A single parent can’t provide a healthy environment for an adopted child.
Myth #5: No person over 55 can provide a healthy and loving environment for an adopted child.
Myth #6: Same-sex parents are not capable of providing a healthy environment for an adopted child.”
“Myth #7: You have to have a college degree.
Myth #8: You have to own a home.
We encourage you to visit their sites to see the facts that disprove these myths.
In addition to myths about adopting from the foster care system, unrealistic ideals of perfection can also derail many prospective parents from adoption. The National Adoption Recruitment Campaign reassures potential parents; “All parents make mistakes and being a good adoptive parent does not require perfection. Rather, it requires the very traits that many potential parents may not even know they already possess: time, stability, maturity, commitment, flexibility, compassion, a sense of humor, patience, a team player attitude, and an overall love of children.”
“You don’t have to be perfect to be a perfect parent,” agrees the ACF and AdoptUSKids.
“Even if you are not perfect you have the potential to make a positive impact on a child’s life. Trust me, when I say, they will embrace you just as you are-imperfections and all … We encourage prospective parents to consider adoption of teens and preteens (11 to 17 years old) from foster care. Older children wait longer to be adopted, are over-represented in the foster care population, and have lower adoption rates. For those families who adopt teens they are giving these children the support and stability of a family and home during a critical period of normal adolescent concerns and important self identity issues.”