One And Done?
It's good to know I am not alone. Tick tock. You hear it? Yep, it's my biological clock and it seems to be ticking louder than ever. I'm one of those older moms, you know, a lady who waited till age 35 to get in this game called parenthood.
How old were you when you entered this journey? Does your age affect your thought about the number of children you will have?
I've never regretted waiting those 13 years with the hubby before starting our family. Though it took us about a year to conceive, the other 12 years were simply spent building careers, making a home, doing a little traveling and, in general, enjoying life. I never thought much about how entering into parenthood as an “older mother” would affect me or my child's development.
Do you think you parent differently based on your age?
I definitely do. I imagine that if I was 20 or 25 or even 30 when I became a mom, I think I would have been a lot less patient and a bit more rattled at some of the adventures. As it goes, 35 was a great age to settle into parenthood. I felt balanced. I felt secure. I was ready to hang out with a tiny tot and never missed the “good old days.”
Now the question becomes, am I done at one? As an older mom, should I be?
Newest research off the press suggests there are more women like me (older) and NO, they are not done after having one child. Specifically, this research concluded that among “all women whose first birth occurred between age 35 and 44, nearly 40 percent had at least two children in 2006-2010, up from 26 percent recorded in 1995. According to government statistics, about 7,500 women gave birth at age 45 or over in 2008, so the percentage of moms who’ve had two or more children after age 34 is probably even higher.”
What will be the impact to these children? Do you think their families will be more settled, both emotionally and financially? Or are older parents just that, old, and too tired to enter into this journey?
Of course, the question is magnified when you consider adding a second child at an older age.
As for me, one and done? I think so, but you never know. Just like the journey itself, I may change direction just one more time.