An Ode to a Mother’s Body

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Pregnancy does “wonderful” things to a woman's body: stretch marks, flabby tummy, saggy boobs, a big scar from a c-section, never-ending love handles, and I can imagine that there are other things that women could add. I can empathize just a little bit because I, too, have saggy [man] boobs, but in reality, I have no idea how it feels to have “lost” my once-gleaming body, and I'm not even going to try to pretend that I know what it feels like. But for those of you that know exactly how this feels, you can probably empathize with some of these British gals.

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In a survey given by UKMedix, 74% of the women polled said that they were apprehensive about having kids – and have actually delayed doing so – because they were a little nervous about what pregnancy would eventually do to their figure. Not only that, 34% of them said they were concerned about how they would feel about themselves during the stages of the pregnancy itself, you know, the nine-month-long part of the process.

Of those surveyed, 68% of the women were concerned not simply about the pregnancy weight; they were worried about getting rid of the pregnancy weight after their baby was born.

I get it. You've been inundated with photos of super-lean models, and that's supposed to be what's beautiful. I mean, even Jennifer Lawrence is considered to be a “fat actress,” which is utterly absurd. You're torn because you were biologically built to bear children, but for some reason, you were biologically built to have a tougher time losing weight. My mom's a dietitian, and she is always saddened by women that she works with who try so hard to get a so-called “socially acceptable body” but biology just spits at them in the face.

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But I just want to add my two cents to the “attractiveness of pregnant-body: I've been writing for EverydayFamily for just about a year now, and my eyes have been opened to the absolute beauty of a pregnant body. It's taken a little bit of time and a little bit of maturing to see this. Yeah, I was around my mom's pregnant body quite often because I've got five younger siblings. But her pregnant body didn't signify beauty or life to me when I was that age. It just meant that Christmas was going to be a little skimpier that year. Again.

But now that I'm a little bit older and (I think) a little bit wiser, too, I think that the figure of a pregnant woman is absolutely beautiful. I see women on the train every day who are pregnant, I recognize their glow, and I think to myself, “That is beauty and awe all in one person.” The female form is magnificent–the soft curves, the gentle eyes, the warm touch, the flowing hair, the smooth skin–and it does absolutely magnificent things. It creates life, it sustains the life that it creates, it comforts the life that has been given to her.

The woman is awesome, not in a 1970s surfer-dude way, but in the way that it is defined in the dictionary: “inspiring an overwhelming feeling of reverence, admiration …”

Jade Beall from HuffPost would agree with me as well, as she has learned so much about the wonders of the female body.

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So it's totally OK if the soft curves get a little softer and the smooth skin develops some stretch marks, the woman is an amazing creature.

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An Ode to a Mother’s Body

Jace Whatcott is a self-diagnosed introvert who loves crossword puzzles, golf, and reading. Despite being a male contributor—one of the few on this particular website—he is not in unfamiliar territory. Because he is an English major, 90% of his classmates are females, so he’s not too worried about being a fish out of water. One of his favorite things to do is to raid local thrift stores for used books. He’s always looking for something to read, or for something to put on his endless to-r ... More

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