New Baby Blues: Sometimes the Baby is Just Fussy
If you’re a new parent, chances are you’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure out what’s up with your fussy baby. Maybe you read every book you could get your hands on before they arrived. Perhaps you downloaded an app that sends you daily or weekly updates about their development. Maybe you spend the hours between when they go to sleep and when you go to sleep frantically googling every odd noise and movement you heard and watched them make today. No matter how you go about searching for information, you probably want to know as much as you can about your baby as possible so you can help them grow up happy, healthy, and strong.
While wanting to do everything you can to keep baby happy and healthy is a very natural thing to want, sometimes the desire to know everything and do everything can drive you a little bit crazy. It can especially drive you crazy when baby seems to be fussy or crying for no reason and you can’t seem to figure out what’s going on. Is she teething? Does she have gas? Is she getting sick? Is she overstimulated? Understimulated?
With a few years of parenting under my belt, I’m here to let you in on a little secret. Sometimes, the baby is just fussy. That’s it. She’s just fussy. She’s not teething, it’s not a wonder week, there’s no sleep regression, she not over or under stimulated, she’s eating enough and she’s not gassy. She’s just fussy. And, because there’s no problem, there’s nothing for you to solve. All you can do when a baby is fussy just because she’s fussy is hold her, love on her, and wait for it to pass.
I’m not saying that babies don’t communicate through their cries, in fact, babies cries often mean that she has a need that someone needs to meet. When your baby cries you should absolutely investigate what she might need by checking her diaper, making sure she’s not to hot or cold, making sure she’s not hungry, or helping her get to sleep if she’s tired.
If you’ve tried all of the above, though, and baby still seems to be fussy, it might just be one of those days. And when that happens you’ve only got one option: to hold her, love on her, and wait for it to pass.
I know how hard it can be to see your baby cry and fuss and, as you hold her, love on her, and wait for it to pass it might feel like you should be DOING something to make it better. The thing is, you ARE doing something. You’re holding her, loving on her, and waiting, together, with her, for the fussiness to pass.
So mamas, next time your baby is fussy for ‘no reason,’ instead of setting her down to call your friend, google the issue, or check your app to see what might be going on, spend time a little more wisely. Hold your baby. Love on your baby. And, together, wait for it to pass. It will, I promise.