Motherhood Comes Naturally {And Other Vicious Lies}

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Here’s the real deal about motherhood. It’s hard. And if you say any different, you are filling your head with lies.

Jill Smokler knows this and has the guts to say it, and quite frankly, as I stare at my chaotic life with three young children, I am thankful. I am thankful that I don’t have to pretend to have it all figured out.

We all do this motherhood thing because those little people we created are worth every moment, however, it doesn’t mean that we don’t have times of great stress and feelings of utter failure. It doesn’t mean that we don’t have moments where we curse those who told us those things about motherhood that painted such a lovely little picture packed up in a white picket fence.

It’s really just not that simple.

Enter, Motherhood Comes Naturally (And Other Vicious Lies)

Jill Smokler, aka Scary Mommy of the famed is releasing her second book of truth. Motherhood truth.

Some people prefer to live in the illusion of perfection, but I love that Jill takes what we’ve all lived through in some fashion and puts it all out there – the good, the bad, and the very ugly. She removes the veil of perfection and makes it ok to have our moments. She gives us permission to keep it real, be authentic to this motherhood gig and not be perfect in a world where so many pretend all is well in their little world. 

I ran across a quote the other day that says:

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes to everyone’s highlight reel.”  ~ Steven Furtick

This statement is so spot on. We need to stop pretending that life is perfection (Facebook status updates anyone?) and realize that the chaos combined with the peace that comes with snuggling our sweet children is motherhood perfected.

Jill allows us that with both of her books, Confessions of a Scary Mommy and today’s newly released Motherhood Comes Naturally (and other vicious lies). She makes the reality of motherhood beautiful chaos that we can laugh at, enjoy, and find peace with. She connects us all on a common thread of some days, we’re just taking it one-hour-at-a-time. And that’s ok.

Perfect is an illusion my friends. It’s not necessary and our kids do not expect it. We should not be striving for such goals.

When Jill wrote her first book Confessions of a Scary Mommy it was wildly popular (and became a New York Times bestseller!) because of it’s raw honesty, hilarious stories and ability to connect us all to the lovely chaos that is motherhood. This new book, Motherhood Comes Naturally (and Other Vicious Lies) does the same but adds to that conversation and gives us even more laughter in the process. As Jill says in her book: 

“…as wonderful as motherhood is, it's also the hardest job in the world, and we'd all go crazy if we couldn't laugh at ourselves. That's one thing I know to be true.” 


If you’re looking for a couple of fantastic reads, books that won’t make you loathe your life with children because you don’t have it all figured out, then snag a copy of each of her books, Confessions of a Scary Mommy, and today's release, Motherhood Comes Naturally (and other vicious lies) .  

I had a sneek peek prior to today's release and I can tell you that it couldn't have come at a better time. I have toddlers in the throes of threes and it's hard. Her book made me feel less like a failure through it's ‘myth-debunking' format and made me laugh with freeing understanding that I'm not the only one who's been in the trenches or who wants to just sit and chat with other moms instead of play with her kids on the playground.

You don’t have to read either of the books cover-to-cover – just dive in to a chapter here and there when you carve out 15 minutes. (You know there’s some kind of break in there somewhere – be honest) It will be worth it, I promise you. 

What's one lie told to you  in regards to motherhood before having children that you could totally debunk now that you're in the trenches? How about one of these from Jill's book:

Lie #2 You'll Be Back to Yourself in No Time

Lie #9 You'll Get More Sleep When They're Older

Lie #13 The Parent is in Charge

Lie #18 You'll Look Forward to Your Kid's Independence

Lie #20 It's Just a Phase

Disclaimer: I was sent a book in advance of release for review, but all thoughts and opinions are my own.

What do you think?

Motherhood Comes Naturally {And Other Vicious Lies}

Nicole Hempeck is a mom, military spouse and full-time marketing manager. She spends her days working hard to raise three strong daughters and manage the many ups and downs of life as a military family while also working her marketing magic for amazing family brands. Occasionally, you can still find her writing at her little spaces in the online world – Moments That Define Life and Trending Parent. ... More

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  1. Lie #2 I’ve come to realize a few weeks ago. Baby isn’t even here yet and I know I will never be the old me again. Just the fact that I’ll feel differently about what being alone means. As in being without another person around nor inside me.

  2. Alison Lee says:

    I’ve ordered the book, can’t wait to get it and dive in!

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