Mom Bullying: Have you Experienced It?
Friday, March 29th, 2013
There's a lot of attention these days on bullying.
Normally, its portrayed as mean girls buddying up and making fun of or teasing another girl. Sadly, bullying is nothing new – but with today with as much technology as children have access to, situations like the one with Amanda Todd make headlines. But again, bullying is nothing new.
Sadly, it isnt just young girls who are being bullied.
In fact, I have had personal expereince being bullied and ostracized by moms. And each time it happens, my feelings are hurt just the same.
There have been times when I have walked into my child's classroom as the classic outsider, ignored by every mother in the room because I wasnt part of the ‘in' crowd. Even as I type this, it sounds ridiculous to use words like ‘in' crowd to describe adults.
Recently, there was a job opening at my children's school district that I felt I would be well qualified for applying. Yet, when I found out who was responsible for choosing – I knew right away that I wouldnt be given a fair shot. This woman doesn't like me (although her and I have never spoken a word to one another), and even though we would never have to work together – I heard through the grapevine that she had already picked one of her friends for the job before the interview process even began.
As mothers, we are thrown into all sorts of social situations because of our children.
And some of them are uncomfortable, especially if you are a newcomer to a group of women who have been ‘together' for a spell already. Add the fact that they may be intimidated by your child and you have a recipe for an epic episode of Dance Moms.
I hate mom bullying. I really dislike it when people tell me bad things about women I have never met, in the hopes that I, too, won't like that person. I very much dislike snobbery and bickering amongst women.
And, to this day – I do not understand why grown woman act in this manner. But they do. Chances are you too – have been a victim of mom bullying. Maybe they didnt post something about you on Facebook, or write negative things about you on the bathroom stall walls – but they probably found other ways to snub you just the same.
It is important for me as a woman to bring other women together. My slogan at Mom-Spirational is to empower women. We don't have to agree with one another. We don't have to like everyone. But I feel that we should set examples for our children that people from all walks of life, from all sorts of economic background, from every form of ethnic background should be respected first and foremost – until we have a valid reason to act otherwise.
As my children get older, I see more and more mom bullying. And I also see that the moms who tend to hang around in tribes and snicker and whisper behind each other's backs – are raising girls who do the same thing. Maybe our bullying efforts should start with adults rather than with children. After all, our kids are often mirrors of their environment.
Have you ever been mom bullied? How did you handle it?