Mom-appropriate Clothes

mom and daughter having funI am no fashionista.  As I get older, I am finding it more and more difficult to find “mom-appropriate clothes” that also fit with my lifestyle. 

At any given time, you could pop over to my house and catch me wearing comfortable shorts, an aged, softened T-shirt with no bra (and likely some paint stains on it), barefoot, and HAPPY!  (Of course I change clothes before going out in public.) During the summer months, my comfy mom attire is the perfect combination of homely and ugly.  But who cares?  We live miles away from anyone and spend most of our time outdoors; and my clothing so often doubles as a towel and tissue that I see no use in “dressing to the nines” day in and day out.  

I have nice legs and don't want to wear shorts that come to my knees.  And yet, I also don't want my left butt cheek hanging out.

However, now that school is back in – and I have places to go where people will actually SEE me – I am back to struggling with mom-appropriate clothing.  I am over 40, which according to society (And Stacey and Clinton) means I have to wear clothes that will make people take me seriously.  (Does this mean if I put on a skirt and heels my kids will listen better?) I have seen the make-overs on television, and I have even spent hours scouring TJ Maxx trying to find my inner fashion goddess.  Even if I buy the clothes, I rarely wear them.  And so dressing up to run to the grocery store, or into my children's school, means upgrading from old and ugly clothes to clean cotton tees and denim.  

Even worse is that I don't particularly LIKE the clothes in the women's section.  Some seem so old, and remind me of my mom or grandmother.  Others are just itchy and scratchy and require dry cleaning or – OMG – ironing!  And of course, the stuff in the Juniors section make me look like a teenage wannabe, which at 40-something, I am definitely not.  

This means that most of my clothes come from the athletic/exercise/leisure wear section.  (However, I do steer clear of the velvet jump suits!) Not because I am exercising every day, but because they are comfortable; and because they wear well, are easy to wash, and don't make me feel like a fool.  If I dress fancy to go to the grocery store, I feel like I am pretending to be something I am not – like some big shot, corporate professional buying spaghetti noodles, so that my nanny can fix dinner.  And my shoes are either cowboy boots, flip flops, or tennis shoes.  So dressing up would also require me to buy shoes, which is not in the budget (especially if I would only wear them for an hour or two, once or twice a month).  

The dilemma I find is that there are no mom-appropriate clothing.  I have nice legs and don't want to wear shorts that come to my knees.  And yet, I also don't want my left butt cheek hanging out, or want to be seen in shorts so short that my dimples and cellulite show. The only thing that comes in between these two things are exercise clothes. 

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Even jeans are hard to find.  If I go for the mom jeans that come up to my belly button, my kids will be embarrassed to be seen with me.  And then, of course, there are the racks of jeans that sit below the belly button and help you share your butt crack with the world, which also hit me exactly at my muffin top from a C-section scar (which I am totally proud of, by the way).  

So I ask you, where is the happy medium? It's not really that I am fashion challenged, but rather that I am fashion lazy.  And practical.  I want clothes that I can cook dinner in, go pick up my kids at school in, and be comfortable while wearing them.  If I worked outside the home, certainly I would opt for the professional business attire.  But I don't!  

The good news is that I am at least conscious of the fact that my appearance does give people an impression of me.  The bad news is that I have no idea what impression I am giving.  The best news, of course, is that I have three older daughters who are quick to point out when I look hideous and “help” me wear outfits that wont embarrass them in public.  For now, THEY are my gauge for whether my clothing is mom-appropriate or not. 

 

 

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Mom-appropriate Clothes

Stef Daniel is the 40ish year old, experienced (meaning crazy already) mother of count ‘em…4 daughters (yes, she takes prayers) who have taught her nearly E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G she needs to know about raising kids and staying sane. She hails from a small town in Georgia where she lives with her family in a red tin roofed house (with just ONE bathroom mind you) on a farm - with tons of animals of course. One day, due to her sheer aversion to shoes and her immense lov ... More

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3 comments

  1. JessiLoveday says:

    Shop for jeans at the Gap. They are kid proof, they are mid rise, and they wear nicely. And at only $40 a pair for good, long lasting jeans, you can’t lose. If you don’t mind replacing them often, old navy jeans are ok, but they wear out faster, and are more stretch and less denim. However they are cheaper. If you want t shirts, goodwill is the way to go, on the weekly half off everything day. And my mom’s go to mom shoes are sketchers. She’s in her mid 40’s. By the way, did you know that on the Croc’s website they sell heels? Like, really comfy neutral heels? Check it out (they are actually quite snappy, nothing you would expect from Crocs).

  2. Phammom says:

    When I dress down but need to go I public I use jewelry or scarfs to up my yoga pants.

  3. laura says:

    Some nice and comfy denim jeans, a cotton tee, and some flip flops seems extremely appropriate. Hair up in a medium high ponytail, or down in waves works. Also if you want to look a little more “awesome fashiony mom” add a fun piece of jewelry, something simple like a necklace or some bracelets. It’s super comfy and so easy to wear anywhere at any time.

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