Making the Second Pregnancy Memorable

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Post originally ran March 9, 2014. 

Oh, that first pregnancy. It’s such a magical time! Full of weekly belly shots held up next to the corresponding fruit, sharing pictures of each newborn outfit you buy on social media, and reading any and all pregnancy books you can get your hands on.

We don’t want to miss a moment, do we?!

I took so many pictures of myself when I was pregnant with my daughter that you could have practically stapled together a flip book and watched my tummy expand before your eyes.

Now, with only eight weeks left in my second (and last!) pregnancy, I think I have exactly two belly shots—and that's only because I used them to compare my size when I was worried this bub was growing too quickly.

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We don’t love the second (or third, fourth…) baby less, we just aren’t as in love with being pregnant as we were the first time around. Somehow, the joys of knowing you’re growing a sweet babe in your tummy is overshadowed by the thought of the upcoming Braxton Hicks contractions and the knowledge that the second trimester is not the magical line when morning sickness ends. And now that we know how painful labor truly is, we’re really not looking forward to it.

Happy for the baby? Of course! Mesmerized by the journey of getting there? Not so much this time around.

Before the guilt sets in, take a deep breath. While you may not be able to find the time to chronicle every single moment of this pregnancy like you did with the first, there are still ways to make it memorable and to find a new way to appreciate it—even with your vast knowledge of the pregnancy woes that you know are coming.  

Pictures

While you may not stand in that special place each week, snapping a dozen pictures in a row to get that perfect shot, perhaps you could remember to take a quick picture before your doctor appointments. This would make sure that you’re (presumably) showered, dressed in clothes appropriate for leaving the house, and there’s a 50/50 chance you won’t find stray Cheerios stuck to your backside. That’s a glamour shot, in my opinion!

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Sonograms

Even though I have had extra ultrasounds this pregnancy, I always forget to pull the pictures out of my purse. And now they are inevitably covered in graham-cracker crumbs. To make up for not displaying those grainy, black-and-white photos proudly on our fridge next to our 2-1/2-year-old as a strawberry for Halloween (cuteness overload!), we splurged on a 3D scan and also had the heartbeat recorded and put inside a stuffed animal. My daughter loves to listen to the sound of those galloping horses over and over again, and that’s a definite keepsake.

Sharing the Magic

Once I reached the point where movement could be seen and felt on the outside, I invited my daughter to put her hands on my stomach and feel her brother while I recorded her reaction. This might seem like more of a focus on my older child than on the pregnancy, but in reality, it’s capturing those first magical sibling moments. The look of awe and wonder when she felt him move his foot across my abdomen was precious and a moment I have loved watching over and over. I can’t wait to see what amazing friends they will be.

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You might not have a journal entry for all 280 days of pregnancy, and, in fact, there might be whole weeks (especially in the beginning), when you honestly forget you’re pregnant at all. But there are smaller, less memory-intensive ways to document the weeks the second time around, and, really, the memories are made in the months and years following the birth. The rest is just Pinterest fluff. 

Have you been documenting your second (or third or fourth … ) pregnancy? How? 

What do you think?

Making the Second Pregnancy Memorable

Rachel is a stay-at-home-mom to her 4-year-old daughter, Sydney, and her 18-month-old son, Jackson. Her writing can be found all over the web, mostly detailing her own parenting struggles and triumphs, as well as her life as the military spouse of an active-duty airman. She also writes about her life as as a special needs parent on her blog, Tales From the Plastic Crib, and spends an unnecessary amount of time on Twitter. ... More

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4 comments

  1. Profile photo of Gina Gina says:

    I am 20 weeks pregnant with my second and I do feel disconnected…Of course I love and want this baby just as much as my first, but I am having a hard time bonding. My son is 3.5, so he keeps me pretty busy, maybe thats why… Thanks for the tips!

  2. Profile photo of Christina Christina says:

    I am currently 11 weeks with my second and I am so in love with it. Maybe even more so than the first time. My first pregnancy was 10 years ago and definitely an easier pregnancy but for some reason I’m even more excited this time around, even with the morning sickness.

  3. I’ve had four and I was in love with being pregnant every single time. I even had an all natural birth with the second- not by choice but because my labor was only 2 hours from first contraction to birth and I was only at the hosptial an hour before the nurse delievered the baby and I was still looking forward to the delivery each time after. I don’t know what chronicaling I was supposed to do, but beyond the sonogram pics I didn’t do much. I guess I just wasn’t that interested in keeping track of when baby on my bladder first made me pee when I sneezed or telling anyone how bad my heartburn was when I ate something with tabasco. Of course the first movements were still just as exciting, but the rest was just a waiting game.

  4. Profile photo of mommy nhoj mommy nhoj says:

    We plan to try to conceiv our second, hopefully next year. I have to agree that it won’t be as big deal as the first but I’ll try to put into practice what I have learned on the past. I will still try to keep ultrasounds pictures, do 3/4D UTZ, take monthly pictures of the bump. I have yet to print most of my pregnant pictures as well as my first born’s. It was all uploaded in FB. I am not that good in journaling I guess. But I like your insights. Thanks!

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