Maintaining Motherhood Spirituality: Music
Have you ever been driving alone in the car when you suddenly realize you've been listening to The Wiggles for the last 10 minutes? You can finally listen to whatever you want, but your mind is so caught up that you don't even realize what you're listening to. Music can make us connect with our emotions, and if we allow it to, it can influence us for better or worse. Recent studies suggest the vibrations and soothing rhythms of music, especially performed live in the hospital, might benefit preemies and other sick babies. If babies who listen to soothing music show an improvement in health, imagine what music can do to improve your mood!
Can music really be a spiritual experience? Absolutely! Let me just give you a personal example.
My husband had been working, what seemed like non-stop, and my kids and I had had several very long, cold, trapped-indoors, fighting-over-brother's-foot-being-on-sister's-couch-cushion kind of days. Needless to say, when bedtime finally came to relieve me of my hair-pulling-out craziness, I was not the least bit sad to say goodnight to my children and have some mommy time! I was stressed! And I mean stressed in the “ain't no one coming between me and my Ben and Jerry's” kind of stressed. On this particular evening, I was enjoying that Ben and Jerry's with some country music. Now, say what you will about Taylor Swift, but that night, believe it or not, she was just what I needed. Her song “Never Grow Up” came on, and all of a sudden, all of the angst and stress of the day melted into a puddle of sobs and tears. Suddenly, that anxious-to-put-the-kids-to-bed woman almost wanted to crawl into bed with them. ALMOST!
I'm not suggesting that you need to become an emotional basket case like me to feel strong emotion connected to music. My husband is a great example of that. His idea of being emotionally connected to music comes in a much different fashion than mine does. This is evidenced by the way my husband pulls into the driveway after a hard day at work. My kids and I can feel his car's stereo system's sub-woofer in our eardrums when he makes his entrance.
While a direct cause-and-effect relationship is undetermined, there are many studies that show music therapy, in conjunction with other medical practices, is an effective treatment for depression, PTSD, and other trauma. Just imagine what a good dose of music therapy can do for your my kid-just-threw-up-in-my-hands and all-of-my-laundry-is-dirty-and the-washer-just-bit it day.
While I'm not going to pretend that my playlist is going to fit everyone's tastes, if you haven't heard Taylor Swift's “Never Grow Up,” promise me you'll listen to it on a day when you're wondering every 10 minutes if it's bedtime yet.
What songs are therapeutic for you? Have you caught yourself listening to kid music with no kids around? Tell us in the comments.