Why Keeping Your Baby’s Gender a Surprise Can Be Fun
As I approach the halfway point in my pregnancy (finally!), there is only one question on my mind:
To find out or not to find out?
I've already scheduled the official ultrasound to happen in two weeks. And while I am mostly anxious simply to find out that all the correct pieces are in place, especially because this is my fourth baby, I have to admit that in the back of my mind I'm also very anxious to make the decision of whether to find out the baby's gender.
Here's the thing: My husband and I have three children already, two girls and one son, so much of the suspense of “completing” our family has been taken out of the equation. (Also, please note my sarcasm with that one, as I do think it's pretty ridiculous that we have this notion that a perfect family needs to consist of 2.2 children, boy and girl …)
So in many ways, I'm very torn over the decision of whether or not we should find out this baby's gender.
On one hand, every fiber of my nesting mama side wants to find out and start getting clothes ready and have a name picked out and organize our house from top to bottom for what may well be our last baby, and therefore my last chance at buying ridiculously cute newborn outfits.
But on the other hand, can we admit that keeping your baby's gender a surprise can be just plain fun?
We actually didn't find out the gender ahead of the birth for my first two pregnancies. With my first, we were shocked when the boy that everyone thought we were having turned out to be our beautiful baby girl. And with our second, my maternal instinct was confirmed when I held the second daughter that I knew I was carrying all along. (I was so sure, in fact, that we didn't even pick out a boy's name!)
With our third, however, we decided we wanted to know. We had literally zero baby boy items to our name, and we suspected it was a boy—the confirmation just helped us to prepare a little bit more. Plus, it was a lot of fun for our girls to bond with their baby brother ahead of time.
But part of me missed the suspense and excitement of not finding out. Part of me craves that rush of giving birth and the joy of hearing the doctor announce what the baby is for the very first time.
Part of me wants the fun of keeping the little one inside of me to be his or her own little secret, savoring the anticipation and letting the baby's presence be known of his/her own accord.
Call me crazy, but I think that finding out the baby's gender is convenient.
But keeping it a surprise is just more fun.
What do you think? Is it more fun to keep the baby's gender a surprise, or is it more fun to find out?