A Journey into the World of Toddler Discipline
I always thought being a mom would come naturally to me. Ever since I was 2 years old or so I’ve wanted to be a mom (and lucky for me, I had a great example to go by!)
And honestly, in the beginning, being a mom DID come easily. With the job I have (by the way, I’m the Director of Content here at EverydayFamily. Nice to meet you!), there were endless resources available to help with the transition, as well as an amazing local mommy group who helped to support me along the way.
The thing is…being a mom to an infant is WAY different than being a mom to a talking, walking, emotional creature like my almost 2 year-old daughter. I know how to change diapers, sing lullabies, cuddle, and love, but this whole discipline thing has me going crazy!
I swore I would never raise my kids to be spoiled brats, but I’m beginning to think I’m already failing at this. Lyra is 21 months old, and to everyone other than Brett and me, she is an amazingly sweet and demure child. But at home, when it’s just us, it’s like she knows just how much we love her and uses it to get what she wants!
Even as I’m writing this, I can almost see your head shaking, a half-laugh escaping. I have a feeling this is not something that’s unique to my life. So, here I am trying to figure out how to stop the constant “no’s” and tantrums that fly left and right when Lyra doesn’t get her way, hoping that by writing it out and reaching out to fellow moms who have “been there, done that” that I may be able to piece together some resemblance of a strategy to take into battle.
Well, I suppose “battle” may be a strong word for it, but it does feel that way
sometimes most of the time. All I really want is for my sweet baby girl to learn that when mommy and daddy say to do something, she needs to do it, and when we say no, it means no!
We’re not unreasonable, but if we ever want to add another child to this picture (which we do want somewhat soon), we need to have a handle on the first child first!
What are your strategies for getting your toddlers to listen to you? Is there some magic trick we’re missing? I have a feeling it’s not a simple answer, but let’s see if we can figure this out together!