Jenna Dewan Thinks Becoming a Mom Made Her Sexier
I have to admit that I'm a little fascinated by Jenna Dewan and before you say that it's just because she was married to my main crush, Channing Tatum, I will say that I've always thought she was awesome. Way back to her first days on “Step Up,” in fact. I mean, she had that inner confidence that I so admire in women, the kind of confidence that, fine, led her to eventually date and marry Channing, but also has led her to have her own career and arguably, way better dance moves than her ex.
Sorry, Chan, but it's true.
And now that Jenna Dewan is making a name for herself with a brand-new power career and making headlines on magazine covers and in articles on her own while Channing seems to have taken a bit of a back seat, it's fascinating to see how she has evolved as a mother and as a woman too. For instance, Dewan recently graced the cover of Women's Health, literally baring it all–and she had a lot to say on the topic of being sexy as a mom.
In her cover story for the mag, Dewan confessed that she was a bit frustrated by the newfound limitations to her sexuality that she encountered once she had a baby. “Apparently, when you become a mother, you're supposed to leave your sexuality at the door, and I never understood that,” she protested in Women's Health's September issue.
To Dewan, however, who has famously described herself as a very sexual person, largely due to the fact that as a dancer, she is very sensual and in tune to her body, motherhood did not take away anything from her sexuality. In fact, she thinks that becoming a mom made her even sexier.
“I think there's nothing sexier than becoming a mother. You give life. It's everything. And you don't change who you are inside just because you have a kid.”
I guess I both I agree and disagree with Dewan on this one. I agree that giving life is pretty darn cool and amazing, but I disagree in the fact that motherhood made me feel sexier. Maybe it made me seem sexier to my husband, I honestly don't know how that man's brain works half of the time. But a lot of sexuality comes down to how you feel too, you know? If I'm not feeling good in my own skin, if my leaking milk and flabby stomach and stretch marks aren't exactly making me feel confident, that matters.
But on the other hand, I am not Jenna Dewan and I do not have teams of people dedicated to making me look good or take care of the other things in my life, like, you know, cleaning toilets and grocery shopping, so I have even more time to dedicate to making myself look good in a traditional aesthetic sense. (You know, like having tight abs and glowy skin and whatnot.)
What I do appreciate about Dewan's statements, however, even as many mixed feelings I have about women's “growth” and “redefining themselves: also somehow always being linked to them having naked photo shoots, is the fact that clearly, Jenna is a woman who 1) is 100% comfortable in her body and 2) knows what she wants and how to work for it.
Even despite the fact that she was married to a man that a lot of other women fantasized over being married to (not that, ahem, I am one of them or anything), Jenna Dewan quietly and calmly sought out a different life for herself without a lot of fanfare. She didn't make a big deal about it, she didn't bash her ex, and she didn't capitalize on the divorce; she just went on doing her thing and that's admirable. And the same goes for Dewan and her journey of sexuality through motherhood. Not everyone will agree that sexiness comes down to posing naked for a magazine, but if Dewan celebrating her body makes her feel good, then, well, more power to her. She's obviously thought things through and she has taken her example to her daughter into consideration as well.
“I want my daughter to see that and be like, ‘Wow, my mother was a fully actualized, sensual woman,’” Dewan said. “Women are so much stronger and more powerful, and living in our goddess energy when we come together to lift each other up rather than tear each other down.”