Is Your Child Bullied? The Solution is Plastic Surgery!

bullied girl gets plastic surgery14-year-old Nadia Ilse is excited to no longer be called “Dumbo” or “elephant ears” by her classmates. She recently had plastic surgery to change her appearance, thanks to the Little Baby Face Foundation, a charity that helps children born with facial deformities.

She has been bullied since the first grade because of her ears and even “begged her mother at the age of 10 for an otoplasty – an operation to pin her ears back.”

The Little Baby Face Foundation contacted Nadia’s mother, flew them both to New York City, and provided about $40,000 of free plastic surgery – her ears were corrected, and she also received rhinoplasty, reducing the size of her nose, and mentoplasty, altering her chin. Nadia is not the first child to go under the knife to avoid bullying, and she won’t be the last (90,000 youth reportedly underwent cosmetic surgery in 2007).

I wonder, however, what type of message we send our children – the bullies and the bullied – when we support decisions to alter appearance purely to avoid name-calling and harassment. I fear this could turn into a new level of bullying. Hey – you’re so ugly! Why don’t you just go get a nose job! Or the comments could be worse. You got a nose job? You still look pretty ugly to me! Hey, Everyone! Bird Beak tried to get a new nose!! How will that then make the bullied child feel? I mean, if the nose was fixed, but not the actual problem, then what? Or what about: Mom, Suzie got a nose job, why can’t I? Can I also get my chin changed? I want to look like Stacy. No one makes fun of Stacy!

Um … no, you may not.

“While Nadia says she knows she should have been accepted as she was before the surgery, she also knew the bullying wouldn’t end and has no regrets following the procedure.”

“Nadia must still start counseling as part of her treatment to overcome the years of psychological distress from bullying, but Little Baby Face board member Don Moriarity told MailOnline that Nadia’s new outlook demonstrates the group’s mission … [to transform] the lives of these children and [give] them newfound confidence.”

If Nadia was my child, I think I would have allowed her to get an otoplasty; and I even would’ve allowed her to get it at a much younger age – even before she began schooling. But I don’t think I would’ve allowed her to alter her nose and chin too. There are a lot of gorgeous women whose beauty comes from having less-than-standard features; noses and chins come in many different shapes and sizes. However, Nadia is not my child; I am not the mother who comforted her after a long day of bullying at school.

But I don’t think the actual bullying problem was addressed. As parents, I think we need to make sure we know the difference between changing our children’s futures for the better versus just changing our children.


What do you think? Would you let your child get plastic surgery to put an end to bullying? Would you let your child get plastic surgery just because he/she didn’t like the way he/she looked?

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Is Your Child Bullied? The Solution is Plastic Surgery!

Kimberly Shannon is a wife, a mother, an editor, a writer ... She is always working to find the perfect balance¹! After Kimberly received her bachelor’s degree in Journalism, she worked on two master’s degree programs (Creative Writing, and Marriage and Family Therapy). At various times in her life she has signed up to study Naturopathy, only to back out at the last minute, and humored the idea of returning full-time to the world of dance. Kimberly has also started 10 different children ... More

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  1. Ambur says:

    I would only allow it for malformations.

  2. Alexandra says:

    I don’t believe that we are supposed to alter ourselves for any reason aside from health issues. We are ALL made beautiful And it’s a pity that something that would have passed over time and made her a stronger person has pushed her to want to change not only her ears but her other features as well. Shme on the parent for allowing it rather than teaching her about true beauty.

  3. Aliyah says:

    Children should be taught to love themselves for who they are and should see themselves as beautiful no matter what others think. Looks aren’t everything and we weren’t all created to look the same. This is the problem today with the media and our society, sending the wrong message across to young girls. Beautiful should be what goes on inside of your mind, a beautiful heart, a beautiful soul. It’s just sad. And she was beautiful even before the plastic surgery without even realizing it.

  4. Melody says:

    Everyone is different, and hindsight is everything. Cliche, yes, but for the reason that it’s true. Childhood is supposed to be special, and parents should try to protect their children (duh) but that doesn’t mean that childhood is going to be magically easy for every kid out there. Kids and tweens are famous for sometimes being mean-spirited and obnoxious. I think that’s part of growing up. Parents have a responsibility to teach their children to be kind to others.
    But even in the cases where the parents are doing a great job in teaching kindness to their children, children don’t always learn the lesson easily or fast. Childhood is not easy because there are so many facets of the individual that just haven’t been developed yet. It’s a little stupid to expect kids to behave like wise little adults (and by the way, a lot of adults haven’t learned to be kind, either).
    In dealing with the imperfections (including meanness) of others, we have a choice in how we respond. People often allow themselves to be cast as the victim, and remain in that role for years. I experienced a lot of emotional stress as a child as a result of the way I was treated by my peers. I was different. I’m a mormon, part of a large family, and we didn’t have a lot of money. I hardly ever had new clothes–just a lot of hand-me-downs–in a region where the other kids were wearing brand name jeans, people had small families, and didn’t much do “the church thing.” I stuck out.
    I resented the way I was treated for a long time. I didn’t let them change me, I made my choices for me. And I’m glad that’s how it worked out. Eventually, I learned to forgive them and recognized that they were just kids. And you know what? Classmates I still have contact with have grown up too. I think if we were all put in the same situations again, it would be totally different.
    Bullying is never excusable, but that shouldn’t be the end of the story. Let’s grow up!

    My daughter has a birthmark on her face. I think it’s adorable, but there’s a chance that it will get darker, and perhaps bigger, as she does. Sometimes I wonder if she will be teased at school because of her birthmark. I know it’s discouraging to be teased, especially as a child. I want to give her all the tools she’ll need to love herself, and be strong and confident in herself so that if the storm of bullying should ever threaten her happiness, she can find shelter in herself and the people she trusts, no matter what.

  5. Kasey says:

    The times we have come to live surely are different. It is sad that we feel, and I often feel the same, like we must alter who we are/ how we were made.

  6. Melinda says:

    Wow, I didn’t even notice that the ears were different, just that she had some makeup on in the second pic. Seriously, the ears were cute!

  7. Alyssa says:

    You should love yourself for who you are. The goods and the bads.

  8. Alanna says:

    I feel like this is giving the bullies too much power.

  9. Caitlyn says:

    I was bullied for having freckles and being to skinny and having a weird bald spot on the right side of my hair line. Im 25 now and if i could have gotten something done about any of that i know they can do laser treatments to reduce your freckles i would have done it even a make over.

  10. Melissa says:

    I think that it helps and all but sometimes you got to be strong.

  11. Kimberly says:

    I didn’t even see any facial features that needed to be “fixed” on this girl’s face?

  12. John Haley says:

    I was bullied for being the “fat kid” in school. You know what….it made me a much better person today and able to withstand the “REAL” world. I think if you are going to help kids born with facial deformities…FANTASTIC! Especially if it will help the child’s health….but having large ears???? That may be going too far!

  13. Laura says:

    I was born blind in one eye. I endured terrible teasing. I thank my parents for sacrificing so I could have surgery to make my eye look more normal. Nothing worked until the Cleveland Clinic got involved when I was 32. But…I knew my parents loved me. My brother was born with ears the doctor called “hound dog ears”. He would have terrible nightmares that the kids were chasing him and setting his ears on fire. My parents had two surgeries done. My bother is a very successful missionary and public speaker now. My 3 other sisters were beautiful. I think that if you can help your child with a deformity, you should.

  14. Jamie says:

    I think if it made this little girl feel better then what’s so bad about it. Sad to say but the society we live in is not for the faint at heart I mean our kids watch tv shows where everyone is pretty and perfect, We as parents must teach our children that everyone is different and beautiful in some way. And the bullies must be stopped or these stories will keep on appearing or worse yet the stories in which children kill themselves over being bullied.

  15. Kitty says:

    Way to reinforce the concept that looks are way more important than anything else, Little Baby Face. Good job.

  16. Nan says:

    People in the US are DYING from lack of healthcare and THIS is what we pour our money into? I had a big Iraqi/Jewish nose growing up. I got into fights because I was sick of being teased. Then I became an adult and realized that over 90% of the male population worships me just because I’m female. Furthermore, I realized that I don’t give a flying fig about my nose. If people can’t accept me, they have no reason to be in my life. I am engaged to get married by the end of this year to a man I’m head over heals, for! We have a beautiful son who I would call perfect. By the way, plastic surgery won’t change your genetic make-up. I know it’s hard to tell self-conscious teens that it gets better. But it does. STOP WASTING MUCH NEEDED HEALTHCARE ON YOUR INSECURITIES! Healthcare in that States costs a pretty little fortune.

  17. Nicole says:

    ” The Little Baby Face Foundation, a charity that helps children born with facial deformities.” Since when did having ears that aren’t “perfectly” proportionate to your head, or a slightly big nose, or anything that kids find to tease other kids about become a “facial deformity” ? I understand what this organization is trying to do, but there are other ways to go about such a thing, besides providing children with plastic surgery, it seems as if it is pretty much agreeing with what they are being bullied for and just offering to change it. As if that helps make everything right.

  18. This is totally the wrong message to be sending to kids… “Hey, nobody can stand to look at you so Change it!”….. No way in heck. Nobody should be bullied but the last thing any young woman needs to be doing is catering herself to meet the expectations of her peers. These kids don’t matter, do you know how rare it is that I see ANYBODY I went to school with? You learn alot about the real “ugly” side of people by being bullied.

  19. Dave Charles says:

    she isn’t really ugly she just has a plane face and big ears in the second photo the only difference i really seen was a different hair cut and her ears looked smaller and she had makeup on

  20. Lindsey says:

    Whatever makes a person feel better every situation is different this wasnt about vanity or gracing the cover of playboy with big boobies this was about feeling comfortable in her own skin she probably suffered so much depression who knows this could of saved her life.. and god gives everyone a gift a plastic surgeon is here for a purpose and i believe this is one of them . id be scared to let me child do it but her emotional and mental well being was at stake

  21. lyndsey says:

    God says we are all perfect!

  22. janet says:

    No i would not because if you change who you are for other people then you have already let them win…and you might still find something wrong with your self even after the surgery and who’s to say that the bullying would even stop!

  23. Layne says:

    I’ve never been in their shoes and faced what they have to deal with daily, so I don’t want to judge. However I hate to think that there are bullies that bad out there, and wonder why that isn’t being addressed more.

  24. Thinkpink3 says:

    No, I wouldn’t let them get plastic surgery just to put a stop to the bullying. Some of the most perceived beautiful children can also fall victim to bullying. In fact, the smallest uniquity such as being a new student or their parents job can land them in the center of bullying, it is not just their looks. Every child has to be taught that it is the person they are inside that is most important, they should also be taught how to stand up for themselves. And every adult has to do what they can to change the behaviors of the bullies. I would however allow my child to get plastic surgery if there was something that they deeply disliked about themselves, something that weighed heavily on their self esteem and their own self image. Something that was hindering their enjoyment of being a child or a teen or adolescent, but it would have to be because they truly wanted it, not because they felt others would accept them more.

  25. David says:

    Change yourself to conform to society’s desires…

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