I’m a SAHM, and I Hired a Housekeeper

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I am great at “picking up.” After the kids are in bed, I pick up all the toys in the living room and make sure all the dishes are in the dishwasher. I will, perhaps, fold a load of laundry.

But, that is where my cleaning mode ends.

Before I had two kids, I would do my deep cleaning at night. I'd tuck the little munchkin in bed, pop in my headphones, and dance the night away, sweeping and mopping and dusting and organizing. That way I had a guilt-free, clean house to wake up to, and I could enjoy my baby!

With a 3-year-old that has decided naps are not for her and a 5-month-old that can't hold his head up yet due to medical conditions, along with his other many special needs, picking up is about the best I can do before I enjoy a long, uninterrupted shower and then collapse into bed. I might watch one episode of Sabrina the Teenage Witch (my current “throwback to my adolescence” obsession) before passing out hard.

In the two months since my son was released from the NICU, I have tried to find a balance. Women have handled household chores and two kids (or many, many more) for years. Surely I can, too. … Right?

The shame and guilt I felt as I answered the door and my sweet, smiling savior walked in, holding her own vacuum, was overwhelming.

It turns out, no. I can keep on top of the laundry since I can fold it on the floor next to the baby while he does tummy time, and my toddler, aka my shadow, sits next to me and “helps.” That's it, though, my friends.

So, as the floor got dirtier and the shower got grimier and the dust bunnies collected, I talked to my husband. I told him I just needed someone to come and help with the deep stuff. Not every week or even every other week. Just occasionally—when the weight of two babies and working from home takes over and leaves no room for anything more than my basic “picking up.”

He completely agreed. As a busy military member, who is also a part-time college student, he was just as overwhelmed as I was. (How come no one tells you two kids is WAY HARDER than one?! Share that information, people!)

I couldn't do it all. So I hired a housekeeper.

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The shame and guilt I felt as I answered the door and my sweet, smiling savior walked in, holding her own vacuum, was overwhelming. I could almost hear all the housewives who had gone before me yelling at me, “SERIOUSLY? Come on, chick. Get it together.”

But, as she worked, my shame and guilt melted away into JUBILATION. She dusted blinds, she swept under my couches, she dusted my baseboards. I had clean baseboards! She used a vacuum attachment (who knew people actually used those?) and went over the fabric on my couches and got in the crevices, pulling out months and months of crumbs and debris.

The house smelled like lemon, and it felt lighter. And my back wasn't aching from all the work, because it wasn't me! You know how food doesn't taste nearly as good when you have to slave over it yourself? The same goes for a clean house. I appreciated my now-spotless domain more because I wasn't the one that had to slave over it. It was a beautiful feeling that was mutually shared by my husband when he came home from lunch.

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It was hard to admit that I needed help, and I felt very awkward as this woman (an angel in disguise) worked her magic on my house, but it was an amazing decision. It got me back up to the level I would love for my house to stay at, and we are trying harder to maintain it.

However, as a couple, we both think having a professional come in and do a deep clean every six months would be worth the money and help keep our sanity (and sanitation level!) up.

Have you ever hired a housekeeper?

What do you think?

I’m a SAHM, and I Hired a Housekeeper

Rachel is a stay-at-home-mom to her 4-year-old daughter, Sydney, and her 18-month-old son, Jackson. Her writing can be found all over the web, mostly detailing her own parenting struggles and triumphs, as well as her life as the military spouse of an active-duty airman. She also writes about her life as as a special needs parent on her blog, Tales From the Plastic Crib, and spends an unnecessary amount of time on Twitter. ... More

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3 comments

  1. Elizabeth says:

    I wish I could afford to have someone come help with the house work im lucky I found someone who could wacth my son while I am working.

  2. Johanna says:

    Are you kidding me? Please! I have one 8 month old, perfectly healthy child. I am one healthy, albeit fairly old for having a first child, SAHM. I have no other formal responsibilities besides the child and the home. My husband works evenings, so I don’t even have to make dinner. I am so overwhelmed!!! I have NO idea what I’m doing! (We weren’t supp to be able to have kids) My parents are gone, my family is on the other side of the country, and I have no friends here that I know well enough to watch the babe (that want to). I would LOVE to hire a housekeeper! I USED to keep house for others, work full time in landscape installation, maintenance, and tree work. I did side jobs on the weekend, house sat, babysat, sat for pets, volunteered weekly, and exercised regularly. That felt like vacation compared to this. I’m Impressed you can get a shower! I went through sleep training three different times with my LO, but due to colds and vaccines, he lost his sleeping ability each time just weeks later. Please, if anyone puts you down for this, just think of it like you’re supporting the trades and the economy, pat yourself on the back, and move on to more important thoughts, like all the positive energy you now have for your family and friends!

  3. Brandi says:

    I have hired someone to come in once a week. To give the kitchen a good scrub down and clean my floors and bathrooms. We a big house and 3 kids and I have health issues. So the help help is very much needed.

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