I’m Pregnant and Worried About My Weight

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Me at 38 weeks pregnant with my son/ Image by j&j brusie photography

There are a lot of things that go through your mind when you find out that you are pregnant. 

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Excitement, fear, wonder, awe. Maybe even a misgiving or two. 

But if you're anything like me, you are always thinking something along the lines of:

Oh my gosh, I'm going to get so fat. 

Unfortunately, I am not one of those skinny pregnant people. I don't magically sprout a belly while the rest of me stays slim and trim. (Mostly, because I struggle with being slim and trim when I'm non-pregnant, too …)

I really want to be able to enjoy this pregnancy, seeing as it is most likely my last, but I'm having a hard time seeing past the feeling that I am already disgusted with my body.

I gain weight. A lot of weight. I've gained 40, 39, and 50 pounds, respectively, with each of my pregnancies, with my last one—my only boy—obviously being my hardest. My son was a July baby and weighed 9 pounds and 2 ounces, which had a lot to do with it, but still. 

That weight still hasn't come off. 

I had slowly been working at shedding that weight. I was easing back into running, taking some classes with my sister, and I was just feeling like I was hitting my groove where I could really get my body back when I found out I was pregnant again. 

And I'm struggling. 

I really want to be able to enjoy this pregnancy, seeing as it is most likely my last, but I'm having a hard time seeing past the feeling that I am already disgusted with my body. I already look way more pregnant than I should because that pooch was already there, and I'm just not sucking it in now, and I'm dreading going through another summer pregnancy—this time until the end of August! 

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It's a hard balance as mothers, isn't it? The struggle to enjoy our babies, even while we struggle with our own changing bodies and self-images? In those fragile postpartum days, I know I should be focused on enjoying my newborn, but deep down, I will also be struggling with how I look. 

Right now, I'm just trying to stay positive. I've been using the elliptical more often now that the morning sickness is receding, and I ordered a new ballet pregnancy workout that looks like a lot of fun. I'm visualizing eating healthy and staying toned during my pregnancy and hoping that will help. And a summer pregnancy just means lots of excuses to swim, which is great for you, right? 

And when in doubt, I always try to remember the wise, wise words of a nurse I once worked with. She had five—count 'em, five—sons back to back to back to back to back and struggled a lot with her weight during that time. When I knew her though, she was incredibly, incredibly fit and toned; the very picture of health that I would love to be. And she let me in on a little secret to get me through my body struggles during pregnancy. She said,

“Chaunie, you have the rest of your life to get in shape. Really. So right now, just focus on enjoying those babies.”

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And seeing her, I'm starting to realize, she was totally right. 

Did you struggle with a lot of weight gain during your pregnancy? How do you maintain a healthy body image? 

 

What do you think?

I’m Pregnant and Worried About My Weight

Chaunie Brusie is a writer, mom of four, and founder of The Stay Strong Mom, a community + gift box service for moms after loss. ... More

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4 comments

  1. Lizzie says:

    I gained 80 lbs with my pregnancy and lost all of them by the time my son was 9 months old. I ate well and exercised during my pregnancy. I avoided caffeine, alcohol, raw stuff etc during the pregnancy but ate very healthy and didn’t restrict portions. I didn’t worry about the weight gain, only about having a healthy pregnancy. I breast fed exclusively and will do so probably until my son is 2. I’m saddened by how many women are so unhappy about weight gain during their pregnancy and then how unhappy they are after they give birth. Walk, breastfeed, drink a lot of water, eat fruits & veggies, no processed or diet crap and you will lose. Stop whining about your bodies after baby. This is what they were made for. Those Victoria’s Secret models etc are not the norm so stop trying to look like them and just try to be healthy instead of obsessed. Oh and an FYI I am 5’5″ tall, weigh 155 and wear a size 8/10. I am very happy with my curves & my muscle (that’s right I said muscle) and know I was never meant to weigh 115.

  2. Cait says:

    I was just talking about this the other day! I am not pregnant yet. We are TTC and right as we decided to try I immediately wondered if we should wait to see if I could drop some pounds first. I am already dreading it. With my first I only gained 15 pounds and while that would be fabulous again I know it is probably an unreasonable hope. I felt huge at 140 and 5 foot six now I am already past 140 not pregnant I can’t imagine what I’ll think of my body at 9 months and probably over 160! But on the plus side for you a summer pregnancy means easy access to fresh fruit and veggies and lots of light summer food!

  3. Wolf says:

    I can relate to some extent… I’ve always been slightly overweight. Been trying to lose my stomach and butt for what feels like ever since my father was always picking on weight. With my first pregnancy I gained 30lbs but fortunately the moment my son was born all that baby weight was gone. And then I started hitting the gym for about 1 year 1/2 and still haven’t been able to drop a pound more then that but I feel better about myself now. Now I’m pregnancy number 2 with another boy and I’m still going to the gym because I don’t want to gain 30 lbs again because of inactivity like my last pregnancy. Diabetes runs in my family so I have to be very careful regardless of being pregnant or not. I’m at 21 weeks now and the most I’ve seen my weight at is 11 lbs baby and lightest is 6 but it just depends what time of day I weigh myself and if I’ve given in to my carbonation cravings or sugar. : )

  4. mommy nhoj says:

    I can relate to how much I hate my body few weeks after giving birth! That was my first! I’ve never seen my mother grew big only after quitting work and we’re all grown-ups then. She had 5 when she put on some weight and here I am on my first and this big? I gave birth to a lovely 5’11 lbs girl and yet I’ve gained 30+ pounds?! I am so lazy to exercise and yet I complain how bigs my arms and thighs then?! It took me almost 4months to wear one of my jeans again. I gave out most of my clothes to my younger sister thinking then that they wont ever fit in me again! Looking back now that I am almost on my pre-pregnancy weight, I feel somewhat relieved and regretted a bit that I gave most of my nice dresses. 🙂
    I just have to emphasize how helpful were my husband comforting words then. His words has alleviated all the horrible feelings I have for myself. If I said, I look like a fat whale! He would respond: No, just a dolphin 🙂 One more, I wish we had the baptism 6 months after not 2, because I look better then. We had a good documentation on how big I am after giving birth! After all, that lovely baby came out of this fat tummy!

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