If You Want Your Kids to Succeed, Tell Their Teachers Your Family Secrets
I don't think I'm alone in saying that school can be pretty tough. You've got tests and quizzes and presentations and projects that cause ample amounts of stress. But when you pair that with bullies and friends and sports and any type of social issue at school, getting an education can be downright brutal.
Let me add another element that could cause success at school to be a little more difficult to find. I call this element the home-life element: this could have anything to do with “a death in the family, major illness, divorce or other family disruption, mood changes, or possible drug use.”
So much that happens at home can spill into how successful people are at school. And with little people doing all they can to get smart, some of that stuff can be super overwhelming. According to a study done by VitalSmarts,
Let me just lay out some facts for you.
- “93% of teachers want to know about a major illness or accident in the family, yet only 21% of parents inform the teacher when this happens;
- “89% of teachers want to know about a death in the family, yet only 26% of parents inform the teacher when this happens;
- “89% of teachers want to know about a child’s depression or mood change, yet only 27% of parents inform the teacher when this happens.”
Why is that? Do parents think those things are way too personal to be sharing with their kids' teachers? Do they think that the events that are going on don't really have anything to do with their kids' success in school?
In an interview with Yahoo Parenting, one of the authors of the study, David Maxwell, said, “By sharing the information, what a teacher can do is become more understanding of changes in your child’s behavior.”
It's true. It's not the teacher's place nor their responsibility to assert themselves into the situations that are going on at home. But the home situation and the future can be more than aided by a good school environment and a healthy relationship with the teacher.
What do you think about this? Would you prefer to keep things a secret, or would you reach out for help?