How to Make New Mommy Friends: 4 Easy Tips
If there’s one thing I have learned since becoming a mom, it’s that I need play dates just as much as the kids do. While the kids are playing, it gives me time to unwind and have an hour or so of adult conversation…and what stay at home mom doesn’t want that? But for some moms, it’s harder to find other moms out there with kids their kids’ ages.
Here are four tips for how to make mommy friends.
Check Your Contact List
With social media sites like Facebook, it’s easy to find moms (who you already know that you like) that may have children of similar ages. Sure you may not consider them friends, but it’s definitely worth scheduling a play date to see if you have things in common and to see if your children get along.
Every Wednesday for over a year, my sister, a friend of hers, and I get together with all of the kids for a play date. Though our friend and I may not have had much in common before we started having weekly play dates, we have become very close. Our kids are similar ages, we have lots of things in common, and the kids all get along. I’ve also found several women I went to school with who are still local, and we have also gotten the kids together.
Ask Friends And Family For Recommendations
While you may not know anybody with kids, chances are you have friends and family that do. Ask them to make an introduction; they know you and your children and know if you might click with other moms that they know.
Check Out Mommy Groups
There are lots of groups out there like Mommy and Me and MOPS whose sole purpose to find friendship and support for you as a woman and mother so you're not alone. All the moms in these types of groups are looking for the same thing you are – friendship for you and your children.
If these groups aren’t available in your area, do a quick internet search for mommy groups or play groups in your area…you may be surprised by how many you find!
Respect Parenting Styles
Moms and kids come in all shapes, sizes, and colors, right? It's also important to remember that we have different knowledge, beliefs, and expectations. Remember to respect those that are different from yours. Just as you would in the workplace, it's important to acknowledge ideas and beliefs different from yours.
Let's take tantrums, for example. Everybody knows that if you put kids in a room together with toys or at the park, they are bound to fight! The way that you and I may handle it may be different, and that's okay!
While fighting over a toy, one mom might say something simple yet direct: “No, it is Sydney’s turn to play with that.” It may be different from how you would handle the situation, but it doesn't mean it's the wrong response. Share your feelings on the situation – you might be surprised by the conversation that arises from varying parenting styles.
Also remember if a child acts out, maybe he or she is having a bad day. Don’t feel bad for cutting play dates short on days when it happens; we have all been there.
Have you made a lot of mommy friends? What tips can you suggest to new moms or moms new to an area?
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