Growing Up Too Fast


9 months in, 9 months out.

My littlest has been out of the womb as long as he was in. It's a little mind-boggling, how quickly these months have flown by.

Yet, I remember the long days and nights of the first few months, when I dreaded 6.00 PM, the witching hour, where he would cry for two hours before he finally fell asleep. No amount of rocking, singing, or bouncing worked.

Nights felt like they would never end, with round-the clock feeds and diaper changes.

Days when he did not want to be put down at all, dragged on, and I would be counting the minutes until his father came home so I could take a break.

Yet, it's like I blinked, and he went from being a newborn, sleeping most of the day (not so much at night!), to a 3 month old who rolled from back to front easily.

His face filled out even more, his eyes opened bigger, his arms and legs grew chubbier, and before I could say, “Hey, baby!”, he could prop himself up when seated. Then one day, he just went from rolling to pushing himself upright, to sitting.

His world changed. As did mine.

He did not stop there. At 6 months, sitting tall, he propelled himself and tentatively crawled forward, taking a few steps towards more mobility.

I felt those steps as the first of many, where my children start to grow up, and begin the road of needing us mothers, less and less.

With the starting of solids, breastfeeding sessions lessened.

More growing. A few more tiny steps towards growing up.

When he became completely competent at crawling, it wasn't enough. The day he pulled up to standing, I knew that his babyhood would end sooner than I'd like, and a toddler will emerge.

I'm not ready.

But he is. At 8 1/2 months, standing on his own for 5 seconds, he looked mightily pleased with himself.

Although he has yet to repeat that feat since, it's a reminder that the end of the first year is just round the corner. He may well be taking his first steps soon.

A few more tiny steps towards growing up.

I'm so not ready.


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Growing Up Too Fast

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, she traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison is a former blogger (Writing, Wishing), and her writing has been featured on Mamalode,On Parenting at The Washington Post,The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, Club Mid, She is one of 35 essayists ... More

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  1. Alison Lee says:

    I know the feeling!

  2. Leigh says:

    I’m always so torn — I want them to get bigger so they can do the next big thing (or stop the current horrible thing), but I hate the feeling that i’m wishing away these days that i’ll never get back.

  3. Alison Lee says:

    Thank you, Brittany! We know we’re done, but yes, sometimes, I feel like maybe we should have another because it’s like we lived the first year in fast forward. 🙂

  4. I love this and I am so amazed that the time flies by so quickly. Sometimes I feel like I will never feel done because I long for those moments again! So lovely.

  5. Alison Lee says:

    Yes, you’re right, Christine. Time does seem to go by faster with #2. What is up with that? 🙂

  6. cyu888 says:

    Beautiful post Alison. I can’t believe he’s getting so big already!! I feel like with the second one, time definitely passes much faster, especially since you have your eye on another one. Don’t they understand that mama needs them to slow down?? 😉

  7. Alison Lee says:

    That we know this is our last baby? Makes it extraordinarily bittersweet. (yay for solids!)

  8. Alison Lee says:

    It moves at warp speed, time. Sigh.

  9. RobinFarr says:

    This makes me sniffly. We’re already past 5 months, he’s almost sitting up and we’re starting solids soon. (Which I’m looking forward to, actually.) But I’m really trying to soak it in and appreciate these milestones, especially because I know it will be that last time.

  10. Is there a theory about time actually speeding up when we become parents? It certainly feels like it sometimes, doesn’t it? I am always looking for that pause button – or at least a ‘slow down’ button.

  11. Alison Lee says:

    Oh, walking 10-month olds! The cutest, AND the most heartbreaking. So bittersweet. My little guy is SO close to walking. I’m cheering him on, and in my mind, holding him back all at the same time. Sigh.

  12. Jennifer says:

    I have a friend that every time her son started to try to walk before he was one she would scoop him up. She said she just wasn’t ready for him to not be a baby yet. This is before I had kids so I laughed. Then I had two of my own and totally understood where she was coming from. Both of mine were walking at 10 months, and it was one of the most exciting sad moments of being a mom.

  13. Alison Lee says:

    YES! Enjoy your pregnancy. The first year goes by really quickly.

  14. Alison Lee says:

    Hah! Yes. He’s only cruising, and I’m already barely getting anything done. 🙂

  15. Alison Lee says:

    Thank you, sweet friend. I can’t believe it either. Where did time go?

  16. Galit Breen says:

    This is beautiful, you. I can’t believe how fast he’s growing! (You know, for me! :)) xo

  17. A few more tiny steps into everything!! The next stage -Alison gets nothing done 🙂 good luck!

  18. I’m already thinking about it and he’s still booked in the womb for 3 more months! It’s sort of a motivation to enjoy pregnancy.

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