Fun Ways a Pregnant Woman Can Spoil a Dad-to-Be
Is that headline correct? Did someone just suggest that a pregnant woman should spoil a dad-to-be?
Yes, that proposition comes from yours truly. And no, it’s not opposite day. But bear with me, because we need to clear up a few things first. Dads, you’re welcome to keep reading, but the rest of this piece will be largely directed to the expectant mothers in your lives.
Ladies, before you come charging with virtual pitchforks and torches, I’d like you to do something. Go to your search engine and type in “how to spoil a dad-to-be.” Here’s a teaser – you won’t find anything. You’ll find numerous stories about spoiling a dad for Father’s Day, but that’s it.
It confirms something I’ve long suspected – dads are often overlooked during pregnancy. I know, I know, men aren’t carrying the child for nine months and experiencing all kinds of unimaginable discomfort. Dads aren’t giving birth and enduring hours and hours of labor. Those are big differences, but that doesn't mean that the pregnancy has no effect on their lives.
Dads are still equal, competent parents in every single way, and I’m here to offer the radical hint that it’s time to let men know just how important they are to this entire process. Pregnancy matters to both parents, and it matters to the child that men feel a part of it. Pregnancy shouldn’t be a one-sided affair if you want raising the child to be a together-thing.
The bottom line is, you love him right? You should have plenty of opportunities to be spoiled in the coming months. So let’s give your husband just one opportunity to be the center of attention – one day, or maybe just one evening is all we’re asking. If you’re on board with that, then here are some neat ways you can spoil the dad-to-be in your life while waiting for the little one to arrive.
Throw him a one-on-one shower and pamper him
I know dad baby showers are an option, but let’s face it, they’re a bit rare and some dads don’t always want that attention. So don’t invite anyone else, and just hold a personal shower just for you and him. Treat him to an elegant dinner at home, offer him a back rub, let him take a nice hot shower or bath, and then let the evening take its course.
Handle a chore he normally does
I’ve seen plenty of stories about women wanting men to help out with laundry, cooking, and cleaning, but I’ve yet to see any – ANY – that suggest women should help men with chores, too. Whatever your man contributes to the home and your family on a regular basis, perhaps you could cover that for him and take a load off his back. Many men work outside the home to support their families and are every bit as exhausted as women, but they often get chided in the media for not helping more around the home. Dads deserve a break, and you can give it to him.
Let him sleep
We all know pregnancy can be exhausting, and this suggestion shouldn’t take anything away from how the mom-to-be deserves and needs plenty of rest – certainly more than the dad. But wouldn’t it be fun for him to let him sleep in, just once? For a lot of hard-working men who work multiple jobs, that only happens once a year on Father’s Day. Let him sleep in, just once.
Get him a present
Seeing you come home from a baby shower with tons of presents could make him feel a little left out. Granted, the presents are for both of you, plus baby, but wouldn’t it be nice to give him a little dad-to-be gift? It could simply be a book, a subscription to a parents magazine, or a special shirt he could wear at the hospital. However you look at it, dad deserves to unwrap a few things, too.
Put yourself in his shoes
A man will never know what it’s like to be pregnant. Conversely, a mom will never know what it’s like to be a dad. The reality is that men and women experience pregnancy differently. But that doesn’t mean that pregnancy doesn’t affect men. Let’s not forget that men have plenty to think about during pregnancy, too. It’s an emotional time that requires a lot of patience and understanding. Dads deserve some of that, as well.