5 Things Every Woman Trying to Conceive Doesn’t Want to Hear
If you're trying to conceive and haven't started your family yet, you may be hearing all sorts of comments from the peanut gallery.
When it comes to having babies, it almost feels like everyone thinks that they get an opinion. It starts before you even add a baby and it honestly never stops.
But if you've been trying to conceive for a while, there are probably a few things you are just tired of hearing, such as …
“You need to just relax.” Right. Because it's that easy. How silly of you to not think of that solution! Also, can someone please explain to me how on earth telling someone they need to relax has ever, in the history of womankind, helped someone actually relax?
“This is all part of God's plan.” Maybe it is, maybe it isn't, but trust that hearing those words never offers anyone any sort of comfort, especially in such a personal situation, so nope, we don't even need to go there.
“Why don't you just adopt?” There are so many things wrong with this I hardly know where to start. First of all, it's not like adoption is an “easy” process, like you just snap your fingers and a baby appears. Second of all, not everyone feels like adoption is the best option for them.
“I had a friend who couldn't get pregnant and then she …” Look, it's a fine line to walk, that makes sense. It can be hard to know the right thing to say—as if a right thing to say existed—to someone you know is having trouble conceiving. But hitting them with every single piece of advice that you can possibly think of, from how your Great Aunt Gertrude finally got pregnant to that essential oil you heard about, probably isn't necessarily going to help. Offer empathy and to help if they want it, but I think it's safe to say they will let you know when they want help.
“It will happen when it's meant to happen.” I'm not even sure what that means? Does that really make anyone feel better? Did all babies all through history happen when they were meant to happen or can we be honest and admit that sometimes, pregnancy just happens and doesn't happen because sometimes there's no rhyme or reason to life?
If you're trying to conceive, it can be a confusing, emotional road with more twists and turns than you ever imagined, and sometimes there's just nothing you can do except try to muddle your way through finding what works best for you. But you have our permission to totally tell off anyone who tries to tell you to “just relax” one more time.
What's the worst thing someone has said to you about trying to conceive?