I Finally Took a Babymoon and Now I Don’t Know Why I Waited So Long
Here's the thing: I have been pregnant a lot over the past decade of my life. Seven times, to be precise, although two of those pregnancies, unfortunately, didn't make it past the first trimester. But in all the many months I have been pregnant, there has been one thing that I have never even considered doing–taking a babymoon.
I couldn't even tell you why exactly I was always against the idea of a babymoon. There was the money, of course, which wasn't exactly readily available when I was 23 and pregnant with my second kid already. There was the childcare factor when trying to arrange childcare for other small children felt like a task that I was much too tired to take on and who in the world would want to watch toddlers and preschoolers anyways? #momguiltftw
And then there was the sheer amount of work that it all seemed to be for me, yet another task to add to my never-ending list of pre-baby work. Getting away–just for the fun of it–never even sounded fun to me. And hitting up the beach when I couldn't even drink? No thanks.
This time around, however, something finally changed in me. Maybe it was the fact that by kid #5, I finally wised up to the fact that pregnancy is the easy time, before the feeding and the nighttime wake-up calls and the mastitis and the fact that a big belly no longer looks cute in a swimsuit. Or maybe it was just because I knew I needed a break before becoming a mom of five kids. (Seriously, WHAT??) Or maybe I just got too sick of the winter that never seems to want to end in the Midwest.
Whatever it was, I finally decided that it was time to take an official babymoon. And honestly? I can't believe I waited this long.
Long story short, our babymoon was wonderful. My primary goal–and I think this is key, ladies, so listen up–was to keep things as simple as possible. That meant:
- Choosing a direct flight our of a local airport and a destination near said airport
- Having absolutely nothing on the agenda except beach time and a spa booking
- Working with a travel agent so I didn't have to do any of the planning
Seriously, did you realize that a travel agent (I used Good Karma Vacations) is totally free to use and they literally do all of the work for you, right down to researching destinations and booking everything? I had always thought that there was some kind of hidden catch to using a travel agent, but they get paid from the destination that you book, so it costs you nothing extra. You can think of it as an affiliate–and bonus, they often get hidden deals or have knowledge of sales the general public might not know about it, so it truly is worth it to use one.
At our travel agent's recommendation, we choose a simple Marriot resort on Hollywood Beach in Florida that had everything we needed, with a restaurant on-site, a beach steps away, and a boardwalk to wander, with plenty of ice cream shops to fulfill all my cravings. The salty air, sunshine, and relaxed vibe was exactly the boost I needed to take me into the second half of my pregnancy and I'm so grateful we took the time to actually go.
Now, let's be clear: I am not saying that a babymoon is a pregnancy essential, by any means. There are so many circumstances and reasons not to take one, from your physical capabilities while pregnant, to work, to your other kids, but what I am saying is that a babymoon can make all the difference in how you get through your pregnancy. For me, it meant actually being forced to take a time out to just breathe and be before plunging into the craziness of newborn life again. It meant remembering why on earth I decided to have yet another baby with the man I married again. It meant eating a meal I didn't have to share with a single person. And it meant remembering that I can–and do–deserve time for myself, even as a mom.
I think that, as moms, (especially when we are pregnant) we tend to focus all of our energy on other people and preparing for other people and making sure their needs are met. I mean, it's literally what we do. We wash and prep and fold the baby clothes ahead of time, we make sure all of the baby supplies are purchased (crib, car seat, stroller, check!), we freeze meals and coordinate schedules and check in on the other kids. It's crazy when you truly stop to think about how much we do automatically without even realizing it. But when it comes to scheduling or preparing for something that's just for us? Well, then it never feels quite worth the effort, does it?
But mamas, you are worth the effort. And if you can take a little time during your pregnancy, before the discomfort of the 3rd-trimester sets in and after the barfing of the 1st has passed, I would 100% encourage you to take some kind of a babymoon. Just don't wait until you are pregnant with your 5th child before you try it. Ahem.
Are you planning a babymoon? Where to?