Why It’s Okay to Be the Family Who Only Makes It to Church on Easter and Christmas
There is no one right way to be a family, and that includes whether or how often you make it to church. Some families never go, some go every Sunday like clockwork, and some make it only on big holidays like Easter and Christmas. Every family has their own, very personal reasons for going to church (or not going) and the important thing is that you are doing what is right for your family.
However, some families find that they are feeling judged by friends or family for their attendance at church (or lack thereof). There may be some pressure to show up every weekend and even some weeknights, and not just on Easter and Christmas. Take a deep breath! There are lots of reasons why it's not just okay to be the family who only makes it to church on Easter and Christmas but why it's perfectly healthy for your family to stick with what works for you.
- Children are still learning traditions that the family has observed for generations. In fact, you probably do things each day to help develop their understanding of these traditions. They don't have to be in Sunday School every week for it to make an impression.
- Your family is creating their own, new traditions. There is no one right way to do church.
- It strengthens your bond as a family to do what is right for you, specifically. If the stress and challenge of getting to church every weekend takes away from the enjoyment and the message, then is it really helping your family?
- Your family is part of a larger community and support network. Those people can be in your life whether or not you're in the pew every week.
- Children and grown-ups have the opportunity at church to make new friends and find new interests, but that isn't the only place this can take place. Many families find that faith-based preschools, community groups, or service clubs also help them connect.
- Your family and your children have a deeper spiritual life that depends on more than just church attendance. You can share your faith with your children in many different ways.
- If your family takes the time to focus on “the reason for the season” rather than making Easter and Christmas mostly about candy and toys, it helps your child to see why this church attendance is a significant moment. This can make these special holidays even more special.
Whatever you do on Easter and Christmas, remember that the important thing is that you are doing what is right for your family. Tune out the noise and be true to your own values and beliefs – even if it means challenging what others expect.