How to Deal When Someone Has a Negative Reaction to Your Pregnancy

When moms talk about their favorite parts of pregnancy they often describe the first ultrasound. The first fluttery kicks. Or the joy of watching their body change and grow as their baby develops. What no one welcomes, though, are negative opinions about their pregnancy. 

Whether the baby was planned or a huge surprise, a positive pregnancy test usually leads to big feelings from the mom-to-be. It’s totally normal to feel everything from excitement to fear. But, no matter how a mom feels, it can really hurt if others react negatively to the news. Even if the timing doesn’t feel quite right, or the baby will make a tight financial situation even tighter, or handling another child will be tough, every mom deserves the support of others around her. 

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If you’ve shared your big news and someone has responded in a negative manner, check out the tips below for how to handle it. 

1. Take a deep breath 

Whether the person you’ve told is excited about your pregnancy or not doesn’t change the fact that a brand new life is coming into this world. Take a deep breath. Remember that your baby is growing, developing, and getting just a little bit closer to meeting you every day. 

2. Know that time softens most big feelings 

While pregnancy news can often bring big feelings, know that time softens most negative sentiments. Even if the response to your news wasn’t positive at first, most moms find that by the time their bundle of joy arrives their support network has come around and can’t wait to get to know the baby. 

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3. Remember, YOU get to decide your relationship 

If someone has said something about your pregnancy that’s hurtful it’s completely okay to decide that you need some time away from this person. Take a day or a week or a month. Part of being a parent is showing your child how to stand up for themselves. So, it’s a good idea to start now. 

4. Seek out people you can count on for support 

Finally, when negativity surrounds you it’s really important to find an anchor of positivity to keep you feeling good. Find a friend, relative, or even professional who can stand by your side and cheer you on. 

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Congratulations, mama! Have you had to face negative reactions? We'd love to hear how you handled yourself! 

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How to Deal When Someone Has a Negative Reaction to Your Pregnancy

Julia Pelly has a master's degree in public health and works full time in the field of positive youth development. Julia loves hiking after work, swimming during the summer and taking long, cuddly afternoon naps with her two sons on the weekends. Julia lives in North Carolina, with her husband and two young boys. You can find more of her work at JuliaPelly.com ... More

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