The Curse of Being Born Second
We've all heard of the middle-child syndrome, right? You know, the one where the kid who was unfortunate enough to be born right in the middle of the sibling lineup has the most difficult life out of anyone in the family?
Well, “Second-Baby Syndrome” is somewhat similar to that, and it's disconcerting enough for one mom that she decided to put her ideas down and express her worry about how the babies that are second in line get the short end of the stick (and sometimes not even a stick at all).
Colleen Seto from the Calgary Herald in good ole Canada talks about how, with her second child, she doesn't feel like she is able to put much focus and effort into her new baby because her firstborn is still demanding her attention and her care.
“I admired [my firstborn] for hours, in awe that this little person was mine. With [my second born], I barely got through a feeding without being pulled away to attend to [my firstborn] or other duties. Plus, I was exhausted and in pain from the C-section. It ddidn'tmake for an ideal parent/child-bonding scenario.”
She goes on to say that “while first babies seem to have every move examined, documented, and often celebrated as they play with the best toys and eat the best food, a second baby is lucky to get any ballyhoo of the sort.”
She uses Facebook as the main evidence of firstborn babies getting the limelight, while baby number two gets somewhat left behind.
I kind of can see that. First babies are so exciting because everything is so new, and since I'm from Utah, people here have so many kids that they could field a football team with both offensive and defensive players. When I see photos of second babies on Facebook, the fanfare doesn't seem to be there, and I think people look at the picture and say, “She's already a mom—she's already had a baby—so that excitement has gone away.”
Another mom, who sees this sort of neglect to the second child, said that since a mother has been through all of the exciting stuff just a few years previous with her firstborn, she thinks taking care of baby number two is “more about survival and getting through the day than taking the time to enjoy every moment.”
Do you think this is even a real thing? Can you empathize with moms of more than one child? Let me know in the comments!