Is Couple-less Parenting the Next Hot New Parenting Trend?
What is couple-less co-parenting? It is parenting partnership for people who don’t want or can’t find a partner.
Sounds crazy right?
That used to mean single parenting and that’s a difficult decision to make because, let’s face it, raising a kid with a team is hard work. Doing it all by yourself is not something that most people would purposely choose to do.
Now there is a new trend in parenting where friends, or complete strangers, are seeking out a partner to have a baby and share in the co-parenting, just like a traditional couple, only there is no romantic involvement whatsoever. This is a way for those individuals who want to have a child of their own to love to do so but without the added pressure of having to find the perfect partner to have a baby with and without the burden of having a child on their own. There are actually even parenting sites such as FamilybyDesign.com who match up people up for parenting partnerships.
At first glance, this concept may seem a little cold when you are considering that we are talking about raising children and not a puppy, but is it?
If you really think about it, there are a lot of good people who would make great parents and for whatever reason may not have found the right partner in romance or found someone and lost them or not be biologically equipped to make that dream come true. These partnerships take thoughtful consideration.
I know a lot of children who came into this world unexpectedly as the result of a night of drunken sexual abandon. Not to diminish the love that those parents feel for their children but many of these children were unplanned and not until they were well on their way were they expected. Sometimes the relationship between the parents worked out and many times it did not. A child may have two biological parents but whether or not both parents stick around to co-parent is anyone’s guess.
In these arranged partnerships, it may not be the traditional nuclear family that we’ve all been using as the model of what a family should look like but when it comes down to it what a child really needs is two parents who are devoted to him and love him unconditionally; two parents who want to be parents and want to love a child. Couple-less co-parenting may be the natural evolution of better parenting.
Would you have considered couple-less co-parenting if you had reached a certain age and had not found the perfect partner to raise a child with?
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