Claire Danes Talks About Being a Lousy Stay-at-Home Mom

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Claire Danes, star of Homeland, has known that she wanted kids for quite a while; she just didn’t feel the timing was right. However, once she met her husband Hugh Dancy, the star, who is 33, was ready to start a family. The couple welcomed their first child, Cyrus Michael Christopher, in December.

She told Elle “I’ve always wanted to have kids, but I’m glad I didn’t until now. When I was thinking about [working and being a mother] originally, I was really nervous about it.” She goes onto talk about how she feels she would do if she didn’t have a career to fall back into, “I think I would be a lousy stay-at-home mom. It just wouldn’t suit me. I feel so fortunate that I have had this straight-arrow focus… that I wanted to act.”

After this interview hit the internet there were a lot of angry stay-at-home moms to behold. Many felt that Danes was painting them as women who have no drive or focus, who therefore became stay-at-home parents, while others argued that she doesn’t care about her child. It is a battle that has been fought over countless “mommy boards” time and time again. Women who work feel superior, women who stay home feel superior. 

I have done both, I worked while my youngest was a baby, until I had my second and stayed home until my third child was two-years old. However, at that point circumstances beyond my control dictated that I needed to go back out in the work force to make ends meet. 

I really enjoyed my stay-at-home days, even though there were some days where I felt like I was a lousy stay-at-home mom. If I am being honest though, I also enjoy working, where I have days that I feel like a lousy employee! I don’t think there is one right or wrong answer when it comes to staying home with your child or going to work. It all depends on your family dynamic, personality, and mental health. Good for Claire Danes for admitting she doesn’t think she could cut it as a stay at home parent. I don’t think she meant to be insulting, more like in awe of what countless women do day in and day out.

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Claire Danes Talks About Being a Lousy Stay-at-Home Mom

Heather Montgomery is a freelance writer with a background in Elementary Education and an almost embarrassing need to read celebrity gossip. As a work-at-home mom to three children, she enjoys spending time with her family and friends. She was married in 2003 and currently resides in Florida. ... More

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  1. Jimmie Lee says:

    I think moms should spend more time lifting each other up and less time tearing each other down. Being a mom is the hardest you will ever have weather you stay at home or work outside the home or work from home. I understand completely was Clare was saying and I feel the same way that she does. I have more motivation around the house when I work outside the home a few a days a week than I would if I stayed at home. But I also know limits and know working full time would break me, some woman are awesome at working full time and managing their home, I know I wouldn’t be. And my best friend is a stay at home mom and she is awesome at that. I am a part time working mom and I am awesome at that, lol. This whole mommy wars has got to stop! Much love to all moms out there!

  2. Tiffamo says:

    i personally would go insane being a SAHM. kudoes to all those mom’s out there!

  3. Sara says:

    it seems to me that openly admitting that you don’t have what it takes to be a stay at home mom (or anything else for that matter) is sort of giving kudos to those who CAN and WILL do it. I know, because i feel the same way. i like going to work, i don’t think i could handle being at home all day with my daughter.

  4. Capucine says:

    I was unemployed for almost a year, it was a really difficult time for me

  5. Sarah Murphy says:

    People are too dang sensitive! She was talking about herself and how she feels personally..

  6. melissa says:

    I defenitly couldn’t do it either

  7. She wasn’t insulting at all. She was talking about her personal situation and that she personally wouldn’t like being a stay at home mom. Personally, I couldn’t do it either. I feel like helping support our family IS my job, as is taking care of our son when he arrives. I know it won’t be easy, but with this economy I have a hard time believing anyone can stay at home anymore.

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