Claire Danes Talks About Being a Lousy Stay-at-Home Mom
Claire Danes, star of Homeland, has known that she wanted kids for quite a while; she just didn’t feel the timing was right. However, once she met her husband Hugh Dancy, the star, who is 33, was ready to start a family. The couple welcomed their first child, Cyrus Michael Christopher, in December.
She told Elle “I’ve always wanted to have kids, but I’m glad I didn’t until now. When I was thinking about [working and being a mother] originally, I was really nervous about it.” She goes onto talk about how she feels she would do if she didn’t have a career to fall back into, “I think I would be a lousy stay-at-home mom. It just wouldn’t suit me. I feel so fortunate that I have had this straight-arrow focus… that I wanted to act.”
After this interview hit the internet there were a lot of angry stay-at-home moms to behold. Many felt that Danes was painting them as women who have no drive or focus, who therefore became stay-at-home parents, while others argued that she doesn’t care about her child. It is a battle that has been fought over countless “mommy boards” time and time again. Women who work feel superior, women who stay home feel superior.
I have done both, I worked while my youngest was a baby, until I had my second and stayed home until my third child was two-years old. However, at that point circumstances beyond my control dictated that I needed to go back out in the work force to make ends meet.
I really enjoyed my stay-at-home days, even though there were some days where I felt like I was a lousy stay-at-home mom. If I am being honest though, I also enjoy working, where I have days that I feel like a lousy employee! I don’t think there is one right or wrong answer when it comes to staying home with your child or going to work. It all depends on your family dynamic, personality, and mental health. Good for Claire Danes for admitting she doesn’t think she could cut it as a stay at home parent. I don’t think she meant to be insulting, more like in awe of what countless women do day in and day out.
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