Why I Chose to Have My Tubes Tied

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When you wait until you are 33 years old to try to have your first baby (and spent the better part of your 20s and 30s in full-on birth-control mode), you really have no idea how fertile you might be. When my husband and I first decided it was time to “start trying,” I was all about mapping out my cycle, using an ovulation tester to understand my “most fertile days,” and then, ahem, doing what it takes to ensure our likelihood of successful conception. And within two months, we saw that positive line on the home pregnancy test.

After our son was born, we realized how much we really loved this whole parenting thing, and we knew we wanted to have a second child right away so they could grow up together and be best buddies, not to mention we already had all of that baby gear! Let's get some use out of it! So when our son was 7 months old, out came the fertility monitor, and I closely monitored my cycle, and in the first month, we were pregnant again.

Now when this second son reached 7 months of age, my husband and I knew we weren't done growing our family, but we figured we should slow down a little bit on how fast it was all happening! I mean, three kids under the age of three would be a little much, wouldn't it? So once again, I got out the calendar, mapped out my cycle, and then … ahem … made sure we were not engaging in extra-curricular activities during my most fertile days. And wouldn't you know it? My careful planning to NOT get pregnant didn't quite work out. Nine months later, our third son was born.

Now, lest you think we were less than overjoyed about being pregnant with Baby #3, that wasn't the case at all. In fact, we took it as the Universe's way of telling us that we were meant to raise a big family. And when we learned that our third would be a boy? Still over-the-top thrilled! I felt no urge to have “at least one of each,” I knew I was pretty good at this mom-of-boys thing, and I was kind of excited about our 3-under-3 situation. 

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But I was also sure that this needed to be my last pregnancy. Now I was 36, this would be my third c-section in three years, which is hard on a body, and, quite frankly, I was tired of having to be concerned about all the possible genetic issues related to my “advanced maternal age.” So it was time to figure out the next phase of birth control for my husband and I, because certainly, abstinence wasn't working! Having spent so many years on the pill, I knew I didn't want to continue to handle this issue chemically, and since I would be in for yet another c-section anyway, the most logical choice to me was to ask my doctor about a tubal ligation.

Now, for definition's sake:

“A tubal ligation — also known as having your tubes tied or tubal sterilization — is a type of permanent birth control. During a tubal ligation, the fallopian tubes are cut or blocked to permanently prevent pregnancy. A tubal ligation disrupts the movement of the egg to the uterus for fertilization and blocks sperm from traveling up the fallopian tubes to the egg. A tubal ligation doesn't affect your menstrual cycle.” (source: The Mayo Clinic

After talking it over with my OB/GYN, we both agreed that it was a sound decision, but I was in no way prepared for the amount of hoops I would need to jump through in order to make this happen! I mean, for 36 years, I made all of the reproductive decisions about my own body (OK, my husband was involved for the last few, but you know what I mean). But now, in order for the hospital to do the tubal ligation procedure, there were many steps involved.

What do you think?

Why I Chose to Have My Tubes Tied

My name is Sharon and I am the busy Mom of six children ages 13, 12, 11, 10, 9, and 8. People often ask me "How do you do it?" I tell them that my key to success lies in planning ahead, with a whole lot of creativity and organization thrown in! ... More

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5 comments

  1. Profile photo of Holly Holly says:

    I currently have 2 boys 14&11 yrs old . I decided I was going to have my tubes tide (hulka clips) I got the procedure done may 2015 . Well to my surprise I found out I was 12 weeks pregnant in August !!! I was shocked how did this happen I guess I was the 1% that could conceive I’m currently 35 weeks pregnant and decided to wait to find the gender out at birth why not make it. Bigger surprise .. After this baby my husband is getting an vasectomy and to be on the safe side I’m getting the cut and burn procedure this time

  2. Profile photo of jesster131 jesster131 says:

    I guess it all depends on where you are. My son was born via C-section when I was 40. He is an only child. We had had some short discussions with my Dr about the possibility of doing a c-section but nothing had been formally decided. I had not been planning a c-section but some minor complications came up & it was decided at hour 18 of labor to do a C-section. As we were prepping for it my Dr looks at us & says I know we talked a little about it. So are you wanting me to do a tubal while we are at this or not. It was almost an oh by the way. My mind had already been made up that if we had to do the c-section I would have the tubal so my answer was yes but it would have sounded so off the cuff to most other people.

  3. Profile photo of verochka31 verochka31 says:

    I would like to say that baby number 6 via c-section should complete our beautiful family. this article just got me thinking…..

  4. Profile photo of Beth Beth says:

    I also have three kids (my daughter from my previous marriage, who is 9, and my two boys, age 2 and 4, from my current marriage). After having a good amount of complications during my second pregnancy, the dr suggested that we shouldn’t try to have another, being that every problem gets worse with each one. We tried to listen and didn’t intend on getting pregnant again and used protection as well as being on the pill, and when my middle son was 14 mo old, we found out our little surprise!!! So when it came time to think about the methods we were going to use “after baby”, I knew a tubal was a right decision, also because I had also had three c-sections and figured why not get it over with while they’re in there. 🙂 But the ironic twist, is that I opted for the tubal to keep me from having to worry about birth control for the rest of my life, yet after things went back to normal after baby #3 came, things were off. My periods weren’t as I remembered them, way more painful, and symptoms I never remembered having. After a long consult with my dr, she realized I have endometriosis, and to control the pain and symptoms that get worse during my period, that I should go on the pill to try and not have it for as long as possible. It sucks knowing that I went thru all the pain of the tubal, only to have to take pills again, but at least I have the extra back-up, just in case.

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