PSA: Teachers May Not Love ALL Their Students ALL the Time
This is a public service announcement: Your child's teacher may have negative opinions of your child, despite the seemingly loving demeanor that she displays at the parent/teacher conference.
Let me explain the reason for this all-important announcement.
Ashley Moore, an Ohio mother, received a voice message on her phone that was mildly upsetting to her. Her son, who struggles with “ADHD, autistic tendencies, and gross motor skills issues,” was the reason behind the offensive phone call. While it is unclear the reason for the message, the unnamed teacher forgot to hang up the phone when she was finished with the important part meant for the parents, and what she said to her colleague at the tail end of the message may or may not have gotten recorded …
What did she say that was so offensive, you ask? Something pretty low. Referring to Ms. Moore's child, the teacher said, “He was 7 in May, and he's the biggest baby in my group. [His mom] still probably wipes his butt.”
Now let's go over some of the facts:
- This boy has autistic tendencies.
- He's only 7 years old.
- He has a learning disability.
- He is one of 21 other students in this teacher's class.
Putting aside the learning disability and the autistic tendencies aside, 7-year-olds are quite the handful. And when you have a 7-year-old student that has autistic tendencies, I can only imagine how stressful it would be for a teacher to keep that child content in addition to keeping the peace and teaching a class with 21 7-year-olds.
Ms. Moore promptly enrolled her son in another school because he was afraid to go back to school with the same teacher.
I want to point out some things:
- Why on earth did Ms. Moore inform her child that she thought he was “the biggest baby in [her] group”? Her son could have been totally fine no having known that his teacher thought he was a handful.
- As was brought up in this opinion of the whole ordeal, your children's teachers are never going to love your child as much as you do. Quite frankly, kids at that age are rough to deal with, especially when they're not your own.
- Do you have that one coworker that just drives you up the wall? I'm pretty sure we all do. There are a few that I can mention (none of whom work at EverydayFamily, of course). And how do I deal with them? I am nice to their face, and then blast them once I get home. Venting is healthy when it's done with the right people and not recorded and given to the person who was the reason for the venting.
- I just want to reiterate my inquiry of whether it was absolutely unnecessary for Ms. Moore to tell her son. I support her 100% for switching teachers, but she didn't need to tell her son the reason for it. He may mistrust all adults now because of what happened.
When it comes down to it, everyone can't be liked by everyone. But if you're going to unleash frustration to a willing party, make sure you hang up your phone first.
What do you think? Should the teacher be disciplined? Did Ms. Moore do the right thing in telling her son what his teacher said about him? Was changing schools the right move? Let me know in the comments!