Celebrities Caught Cheating: How it’s Affecting Your Child’s Future

getting engagedHow am I to teach my daughter about honesty and faithfulness within relationships when we are surrounded by a world – both the glorified Hollywood version and the ordinary day-to-day version – that seems to increasingly lack this ability?  

I just wrote about Why More Wives are Cheating on Their Husbands; and now that this revealing article with quotes from cheating and cheated-on celebrities has reared its ugly topic in my news feed, I am convinced: the concept of Marriage, as I know it, is in trouble.

Faithfulness means being “consistently trustworthy and loyal, especially to a person, promise, or duty.”

Marriage vows include promises to be true to one another, “in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health,” and to love and honor – richer, poorer, till death, through the eternities – and cherish each other.

“It seems like any time someone cheats in Hollywood, it’s not long before the infidelity becomes public knowledge. Cheating scandals run rampant amongst celebrities, and once the tabloids pick up on an affair, interviews from the celebs involved follow shortly,” according to the article.

These “interviews” then spread like viruses, showing up on our TVs, shouting at us from magazine covers along the checkout lines at grocery stores, and infecting various news feeds on the Internet with their commonness. It’s too common. It’s too glorified. It’s too easily dismissed.

Sandra Bullock, married for five years to Jesse James before he cheated on her, said that afterwards, she “was perfectly content to be permanently broken.”  Eva Longoria wondered, “Okay, I’m not sexy enough? I’m not pretty enough? Am I not smart enough?” after divorcing Tony Parker after his rumored affair.  

Sienna Miller had children with Jude Law; and when his affair with the nanny was revealed, she was reported to have said, “There was a loss of innocence on my part. I was blinded by being a romantic person … what if I never love that vulnerably and that openly again?”

But then they do. And we all are forced to watch as these celebrities publicly “grow stronger” and “recover” from broken marriages.  But what are our children seeing? What is registering in their minds? What are our young children and teenagers learning?

Tiger Woods, legendary golf pro, said, “I felt I had worked my entire life and deserved to enjoy all the temptations around me. I was unfaithful. I had affairs. I cheated.”   And Whoopi Goldberg has said, “Yes, I screwed around while I was married, yeah. I made mistakes too. It happens sometimes.”   Usher was even quoted saying, “I was faithful at heart, but not faithful all the way.”  (What does that even mean???)

We need to actively teach our children about honesty.

Reward your child! We are quick to discipline dishonesty, but are we quick to reward truthfulness?  Teach your children that wrong is always wrong. If “Jimmy” cheats on his school test because his parents fought the night before, and he was tired, and his parents didn’t help him study, Jimmy still cheated. If you child knows that Jimmy cheated and doesn’t say anything to Jimmy, or the teacher, your child has (consciously or unconsciously) taken a part in the scandal that may never see a consequence.

Be a good role model – show your child how to be honest and keep your promises!

Try not to ask the obvious. If your child has tracked mud through the house, don’t ask, “Did you track mud through the house?” Your child may think he or she has a way out of it! Instead, calmly say, “You just tracked mud in. Let me show you how you can clean that up.” And then let him or her clean it up.

What else can we do to ensure that our children value marriage? Share your ideas with us in the comment section below!!

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Celebrities Caught Cheating: How it’s Affecting Your Child’s Future

Kimberly Shannon is a wife, a mother, an editor, a writer ... She is always working to find the perfect balance¹! After Kimberly received her bachelor’s degree in Journalism, she worked on two master’s degree programs (Creative Writing, and Marriage and Family Therapy). At various times in her life she has signed up to study Naturopathy, only to back out at the last minute, and humored the idea of returning full-time to the world of dance. Kimberly has also started 10 different children ... More

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