I’m So Glad Carrie Underwood Is Talking About Her 3 Miscarriages
Last month, singer Carrie Underwood shared the very exciting news that she is expecting her second child with husband Mike Fisher. The pair already share son, Isiah, who is 3, and this time, she shared the news of her pregnancy in a video to her fans and followers.
I admit I totally got sucked into the video, watching all 3 “swipes” of it, because 1) I am secretly kind of a pretty big Carrie Underwood fan — I mean, how can you not be? She's a true testament to hard work and dedication, she genuinely seems to be a really nice and sweet person, and I completely respect how she is a professional while maintaining a private life. Plus, there's the fact that I secretly wish I could be her, or at least have her legs, but I guess that's neither here nor there. 2) I am a sucker for all pregnancy announcements, especially from powerful, strong women like Carrie — I love how she, like Beyonce, is living proof that you can chase your dreams and have the babies and still be literally strong as hell.
All that to say, I was so excited for Carrie to welcome another baby into the world, but when she also decided to go public with her journey to having this baby — and the three miscarriages she suffered along the way — I was blown away by a new level of respect for the star.
In a sit-down in-person interview with CBS News, Underwood discussed how, like so many women, she had a plan for what she thought her family would look like. The 35-year-old told Tracy Smith that she had envisioned 2017 as the year that she would have another baby and life would be perfect once again.
And then, life definitely didn't go as planned. In November, she had a major accident at her home in Nashville, falling and injuring her face so badly that she needed 40-50 stitches. But her fall was just the end of a year that had already been full of heartbreak because she revealed that although she was able to get pregnant early in 2017, first thinking that her plans were coming to reality, that first pregnancy “didn't work out.”
She told the interviewer that she viewed as ‘Yeah. It happens. And that was the thing, in the beginning, it was like, ‘Okay, God, we know this is, just wasn't Your timing. And that is all right. We will bounce back and figure our way through it.” She and Fisher went on to conceive again, this time in the spring, but once again, Underwood miscarried. And once again, she kept going, kept smiling, kept working.
But when she got pregnant again in January of 2018 and miscarried again, her outside composure started to crack a little — and that raw emotion was portrayed in her album and specifically the song, “Cry Pretty,” about a girl who, for all intents and purposes, keeps a smile on her face and keeps going, even when inside, she is breaking.
And by the time Carrie got pregnant yet again and there were some signs that led her to believe she was miscarrying for the fourth time, she was done being Mrs. Nice Girl. Instead, she got mad.
“I had always been afraid to be angry,” Underwood revealed in the interview. “Because we are so blessed. And my son, Isaiah, is the sweetest thing. And he's the best thing in the world. And I'm like, ‘If we can never have any other kids, that's okay, because he's amazing.' And I have this amazing life. Like, really, what can I complain about? I can't. I have an incredible husband, incredible friends, an incredible job, an incredible kid. Can I be mad? No.
And I got mad.”
When I read Underwood's words, I felt like simultaneously pumping my fist in support and running to give her a hug. Because I understand what she's talking about exactly. I have now had two miscarriages back-to-back, I'm approaching 33, my kids are reaching ages where it's starting to feel like another baby at this point is not a good idea, and the whole thing, in general, has been laced with so many emotions, including yes, getting mad.
And that's something I think that needs to be talked about more when it comes to miscarriage, pregnancy loss, and infant loss. Because you know what? It's OK to get mad. It's OK to be downright pissed off. It's OK to feel all the emotions that you need to feel because that whole experience is downright hard and miserable and leaves you to question everything. There just isn't a right or a one way to go through it all, and getting mad doesn't make you ungrateful for what you do have or make you a bad person.
It's OK to be mad about miscarriage. Because it just plain sucks. And even a superstar like Carrie Underwood can admit that, so mamas who know the pain, we're in good company now.