Bye Bye Pacifier

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I loved the paci, nuk, binky. My little girl loved it more. From the time she came home from the hospital, and wasn’t nursing, she was sucking away on her pacifier, or bink as we fondly referred to it. I never thought about the day we would say good-bye to it. It seemed that it would be long into the future and then I blinked and it was here.

Does your little one love his or her pacifier? Are you concerned they are growing too old for its use?

As my little girl approached toddlerhood, we weaned the use of her paci down a bit. As her language developed, we didn’t want any interference, and so the bink became a naptime or nighttime only option. Well into toddlerhood, I was happy with this compromise.

At 19 months, my little was about to venture into a preschool program. It was a big transition.  It became a bigger transition when, the night before the program began, I got word about the “no pacifiers” during naptime.

My heart raced. I admit it, I panicked.

At first I was angry about just finding this out. Had I missed this information somewhere?

After I simmered down and talked to her teacher-to-be and a few family and friends, I talked myself into believing that I would be okay and SHE would be okay without that pacifier during naptime.

And she was. Go figure.

The pacifier remained in her toddler bed as she approached 2 ½ years old. The teacher was hinting that it was time to say good-bye to these nuks for good. I was pondering the idea.

Next up, one of our family members was due to welcome a little one into the world.

Thinking about it, I decided to drop the idea that the NEW baby would need a pacifier much more than my little one did these days. No, we weren't planning on REALLY giving this baby her bink to USE, but it was more about providing the perfect transition for our little girl.

During the first visit from our family, my little girl proudly declared that she was giving her paci to Keegan. She then took the pacifier and brought it to the baby carrier, tucking it beside this little newborn.  I beamed with pride.

The family left and so did her pacifier.

I told my daughter that it was time to celebrate her achievement of being a big girl. It did not matter that it was nearly bedtime; we were on our way to the local toy store to pick out something special.  
Arriving back home, she was proud and happy. New toy in hand we proceeded to get her ready for bed. 
As we began our bedtime routine, she asked for her paci.

“Um, what?” I stuttered. Obviously, there had been some sort of miscommunication

My dear daughter indeed knew there was more than ONE paci. She simply was requesting paci #2, 3, 4, 5 and so on.

As challenging as it was, I played dumb. I acted oblivious. “What other pacis?”

And, so the story ended. There were a few tears from her, but her purple blanket filled in for that night. 
The paci request lasted a few days.

It was hard, but I kept consistent. I still haven't quite let go. Nearly three years later, you’ll find that cup of pacis in my cupboard. And every now and then I bring them down just to hold them once more.

Are you ready to let go of your child’s pacifier?

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Good luck to you AND your little one!

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Bye Bye Pacifier

Jeannie Fleming-Gifford is a mama to one little lady, freelance writer, and the director of education for a non-profit community school of the arts. Graduating with a B.A. in Music and a M.A. in Child Development, Jeannie began her career in quality child development programs as a teacher, then moved into creative administrative roles with science centers, symphony orchestras and arts programs. Owner of 170+ year old house, Jeannie loves living in small town America where walks to the park and ... More

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  1. Profile photo of TinkFL TinkFL says:

    "Rounded out spot?" Where? If you mean the roof of his mouth, all children have that! If a child has the urge to suck, he will suck his thumb/fingers/hands if nothing else is available. Pacifiers are constructed to not cause repetitive-use deformities, especially the silicone ones, whereas his hands and digits are not.

  2. Profile photo of Theresa Theresa says:

    My son is now 6 months old. From the beginning, we’ve only used the pacifier from the hospital when absolutely nothing else worked to soothe him. We took a flight at 4 months and ever since then he’s given up the binky. He’s decided bottles are no good as well, so straight to sippy cups for us! Now I don’t have to deal with "bye-bye binky" OR "bye-bye bottle!" 🙂

  3. Profile photo of ErinF ErinF says:

    I’m hoping to skip the pacis altogether. I’ll mostly be a SAHM for the first few months at least, so if babe needs to nurse, the real thing will be there. As far as I know, my sister and I never had pacis as babies–I don’t know if our parents offered them and we had no interest, or if they just never introduced them.

  4. Profile photo of Ana Ana says:

    I am so thanked that my lil one was really never too attached to her paci she did liked it when she was newborn but i think it was when she turned 4 months she was just not interested n she’s now almost 10 months n does not suck on her thumb Happy mommy glad to say I’m not gonna have to go tru that …

  5. Profile photo of Kelly Kelly says:

    My son is 6 months, and I didn’t realize we had stopped using his pacifier until my husband asked why we had.
    I was a nocturnal thumb sucker and always swore I would never ever give my son a pacifier. Then at four in the morning my first night in the hospital I couldn’t take it anymore, and I refused to send him to the nursery because ‘if I can’t take it here how will I manage at home?’ The hospital bed he was in had a little drawer full of sample sized necessities, diapers, wipes, and one single soothie pacifier. I popped it in his mouth and we slept for hours.
    I brought it home with me and my mother bought a two pack of them and two pacifier clips on our first trip for baby supplies, one of the clips went on his travel pacifier, and the other his stay at home pacifier. We lost one of the three and we always made sure to have one of the others with us.
    Then one day I forgot to grab his travel pacifier out of his big diaper bag, and the world didn’t end. He could half sit up and was playing with his toys much more. That was about three months ago, and every time he gets in a new tooth we pull out his crib pacifier and he plays with the strap and chews on the side, but he almost never actually suckles it, and if he ever stops getting in teeth (he has six already, one for each month) he will probably swear it off entirely.

  6. Profile photo of Nicole Nicole says:

    Why do people make SUCH a big deal about pacifiers? Bigger things to worry about and most kids either out grow them or get over wanting one by 2 or so. Use them, do not use them, just quit judging other moms who go the other way already. Sheash, it’s like freaking high school sometimes…

  7. Profile photo of Allie Allie says:

    Do not give a pacifier if you are breastfeeding. It will affect your milk supply.

    • Profile photo of Svitlana Svitlana says:

      It is not true, I was breastfeeding my daughter till almost two yers and she used pacifier from the very beginning, and it didn’t affect our breastfeeding at all!

  8. Profile photo of Alyssa Alyssa says:

    My daughter never liked those pacifiers (wasn’t the real thing) and I am actually glad she didn’t. I see all these babies in pictures and all you see is this big pacifier stuck in their mouth lol.

  9. Profile photo of Allie Allie says:

    My baby is 3 months old. I never used a pacifier and am not going to be. Our hospital and lactation consultant was against it and so am I. But I do understand the need for one if the baby has medical issues or colic.

  10. Profile photo of Sherri Leigh Sherri Leigh says:

    My son was born with what the nurses said and aggressive suck. He had to have a binky or he would scream non stop. He had bad colic also. I believe its personal preference and no two children are alike so people shouldn’t judge. I do believe however that there is a certain point when kids should not have them. I know a 3 year old with a bottle! My son just turned 22 months and we are in the process of taking away the binky slowly. By the time he is 2 it will go bye bye for good 🙂

  11. Profile photo of Leslie Leslie says:

    daughter broke herself at three months cause I only use it when I had to. I did not like them. My child love to sleep just like her mother. she let me sleep till nine to eleven everyday from six months and up. she is 20 months now. 33in. she broke herself off the bottle too at twelve months.

  12. Profile photo of Julianna Julianna says:

    My first son stopped his himself at the age of one.

    My second loved his binky! I was so nervous about the day I had to take it away. When he turned 2 I refused to buy any new ones. When the last one went missing it was the end. Six months later the last one went missing. He looked for it everywhere but eventually gave up. He never asked for it again. I miss it more than he does. Whenever he cries I still have the instinct to give it to him..

  13. Profile photo of Mom2two12 Mom2two12 says:

    Oops not bin kid lol BINKY* my auto correct on my darn phone 😛

  14. Profile photo of Mom2two12 Mom2two12 says:

    My son loved his!!! I took the bottle away when he turned one and the bin kid away when he turned two.

  15. my nephew lived with me from birth to the day he turned 1. he used the paci only at night and at 5 months no longer cared for it. he would spit it out and throw it as far away from him as he could get it. i hope my son will be the same way.

  16. Profile photo of Angela Angela says:

    My 6 month old has never used a pacifier. She hates it, so luckily i didn’t have to learn how to take it away from her when she will be to old for it!

  17. my little girl uses one to go to sleep at night or naptime. she is 3 months but when she is 1 bye bye pacifier

  18. i dont think you should use a paci…they have been known to disform childrens mouths and teeth…they have also been known to become too much of a soothing element for the child which causes them to not want to give it up when its time…i have a friend whos son is 4yrs,going into preschool this fall and refuses to give up his ninny.

  19. Profile photo of amy wright amy wright says:

    When my son was first born he took wht i called his "binky". That LAst Til He was bout a month old, since then he will not take the binky, if theres no milk coming out the tip he dont want it, lol. so i guess its a good thing, but i decided to throw all the binkys away, he dont need them : )

  20. Profile photo of allie_cat allie_cat says:

    i dont have my child yet but i know that my cousins baby cant go a day with out his pacifier.

  21. never….dont give the option of one and you will never have to fight to take it away..

  22. Profile photo of Zenobiasmom Zenobiasmom says:

    I got my daughter to stop using one, actually…I thought I did. Come to find out her daddy was giving her one AND she had a stash lol..soo unfortunatly she still uses one :/

  23. Profile photo of Christine Christine says:

    i used a pacifier while i breastfed. i got the nuk ones or any pacifier that says" feels like a mothers breast" or something like that.

  24. Profile photo of Christine Christine says:

    My daughter called her pacifier a "mimi" she loved it wouldnt leave the house without it. And if we lost it we were in trouble she would hide them around the house in places only she knows about, so on her 3rd birthday when we took it away from her she would go to those hiding places and next thing i know she has her "mimi" in her mouth. I had to turn the house inside out looking for them and i would hide them so she couldnt see them, I just came across some while cleaning (getting ready for baby number 2) and i started to cry she isnt a baby anymore. We took the pacifier off her cold turkey and she did very well. It was hard for the first couple of days especially at bed time but after a week she forgot all about it.

  25. Profile photo of Anna Anna says:

    When would be a good time to start using a pacifier when you breastfeed?


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