Brother, Sister, Friend

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I grew up with a younger brother and sister who were alternately fun to play with and a total pain to deal with, as it often goes with siblings. But once we were older, we found true friendship in one another. I saw the same play out with my mother and her sisters and my cousins and their siblings. As we grew up, it became clearer that these people that you’ve grown up with, shared a home and a life with, are the people that help define who you are. When it came time to begin my own family, I knew what I wanted for my children – the same blend of annoying and amazing that I had in my own siblings.

The birth of my first left me reeling in so many ways, adjusting to being a mother and the responsibilities that come with that title. But there was never a hesitation about doing it all again. I knew that our family was still going to grow. Trying for another child brought us surprise – and the realization that you really can’t plan these things – when we found out we were expecting twins. It has been quite the ride, with a combination of elation and terror that no roller coaster can hope to duplicate. And once we became a family of five, I was able to learn just how precious that relationship is between siblings. The give and take of adoration and frustration that sharing not just your toys, but your life with another entails is fascinating to watch as it develops.

I know that families come in all shapes and sizes, and I wouldn’t dare to suggest that a house full of children is the right choice for everyone. But it is the right choice for my family. Whether it is the way my kids can willingly share with one another or the way they fight fiercely over just about anything, watching them grow up – together – is an experience I wouldn’t trade for anything.

Tell me about your family. Do you feel the same way about siblings? 

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Brother, Sister, Friend

Sara McTigue is a secret agent, cupcake chef, award winning author, photographer, and PTA mom. At least, that is how things look in her mind. When she isn’t testing the bounds of her imagination, she is a mom to three amazing and hilariously funny children, wife to a charming and handsome man, and thoroughly addicted to reading. With a BS in English Education and an MA in English Literature, words – and their ability to shape our lives and thoughts – are an everyday fascination. Af ... More

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  1. Profile photo of Angela Angela says:

    I only have 1 baby right now. Can’t wait to try for a second, we want her to have a brother/sister to grow up with.

  2. I loved having my younger brothers around. My brother Matt and I are nearly 3 years apart and Chris and I are just shy of 10 years apart! I got to help with both of them from birth up because my mother thought it important that I be allowed to be involved with the babies rather than told that I might hurt them somehow. We have way too many cousins too but I wouldn’t trade my family for anything. They not only made me who I am but they understand me when I can’t make myself understood to others. I hope to be able to give that to my children.

  3. Profile photo of Rachel Rachel says:

    I am an only child. I currently only have one daughter. Sometimes I want just one more but then other times I want her to be my only child. She does have 2 half brothers, 10 and 13; she is 11 months.

  4. Profile photo of marichinno marichinno says:

    I grew up with my younger brother was a year younger than me and then just entering my senior year in high school my lil sister was born. It was always my brother and I and we would always have the brotherly sister moments, we would get along for a while and then we would fight at some moments. I have a daughter and a son they are almost 2 years apart and they have the same relationship that I had with my brother and it takes me back to memory lane. Being pregnant for the third time and hopefully the last there is a 5 year gap but I am hoping that a relationship with eachother will be a good sibling.

  5. Profile photo of cindy cindy says:

    I grew up with one older sister and we were at times the best of friends and at others mortal enemies. For many years, our lives were as different as night and day. My sister married her high school sweetheart, became a teacher (actually taught for a while in the school we both went to) and had my niece and nephew while still in her 20s. Her family lives in the farmstead that her husband’s family grew up in and he farms full time. I moved multiple states away as soon as I graduated high school, continued my education and built my career during my 20s. I met my husband at 30 and married at 32. After trying for many years to conceive, I was finally pregnant with our first child at age 40. At the end of my first trimester, our father passed away from cancer. I can honestly say that I have never been more grateful to have a sibling. She was the only other person who could truly understand what I was going through. It was at that moment that I knew I would try to have another child. After having our daughter (almost 3 years ago), it was so easy to imagine just the 3 of us, and I know in my heart that she is enough for me (my husband said the same). But after a visit to my OB/GYN in March and hearing the whole biological clock speech once again, I did some sole searching. Although I wasn’t relishing being pregnant again at 43 (and it has been a struggle!), I realized that having a family isn’t just about me. I wanted to be able to give my daughter the most amazing gift she will ever have, a sibling. I am certain that this will not always seem like a gift, more like a curse on some days! I am also certain that someday she will be as grateful as I am to have my sibling, the one person who "gets me". I am now at the end of my first trimester and we are anxiously expecting our second child around the New Year!

  6. Profile photo of Danae Danae says:

    I grew up with a little sister, and we either loved each other and played too loudly for everyone or we were at each other’s throats never a happy medium. But ever since I got married and left home, we’ve grown so much closer and I can say she’s my very best friend, I’ve always loved her, but I cherish the relationship we share now. I hope to pass this on to my new little family, I don’t see us having just one child!

  7. I had a younger sister and brother. As much as I love them they made me want to lock them up in a closet. We are still close my sister and I now closer then my brother and I there are decisions he made that I dont agree with but I still support him and love him. We all have two kids so far of our own two of them only 5 days apart. My sister is my daycare provider and watching the 4 of our kids play together its crazy how close they are. The girls are like sisters and it is one of the most adorable things to watch. We hope to add more babies but for now were happy.

  8. i grew up with 3 little brothers and somehow still made out sane lol. now i have a 3yr old boy and a 6 month old baby girl. At first I was worried he would be jealous of his little sister but my 3yr old surprisingly took very well to her and loves her very much. He even defends her against Daddy’s prickly kisses lol. And of course, she adores him. I think He is the only one that can get her to laugh so hard that even my stomach hurts from just hearing it. I love my family and I wouldn’t trade it for the world!

  9. Profile photo of elissa elissa says:

    I grew up in a family of five children and loved every minute of it! Each of us are different and unique, but the influence of each of my siblings made me the person I am today! Because of the close friendships I have with my family I always knew I wanted a big family! I’m just getting started. I have a one year old little boy and am expecting my second in December! I hope that I can raise my children the way I was raised and they can grow to enjoy all the fun happy times and learn and grow from the frustrating and not so fun times!


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