Bonding with Dad: Should Video Games Be Abandoned for Catch and Cupcakes?
Just recently, Susan Stiffelman’s blog was featured on Huffington Post, debating whether or not dads should be using video games as a bonding activity with their kids. She mentions that “digital experiences” are taking away from the things that people used to do in order to bond and strengthen relationships. She gives a few suggestions of things that could be changed, but I don’t see any issues with a dad playing video games with his kids.
Why not use something that both you and your child are interested to both give you the relaxation that you need, as well as give you and your kid some bonding time?
As of now, I have no idea what it’s like to be a dad with a 9-5 job, payments for just about everything you could think of, and constant stresses about multiple children. I’m not a father yet. But I have a father. From what I’ve seen from my dad, it looks like the man of the house could use some time to do whatever he can to get some R&R. Reading may be the escape for some dads; working in the yard may be an escape for other dads. And even the oft-scolded hobby of video games could be an escape.
Why not use something that both you and your child are interested to both give you the relaxation that you need, as well as give you and your kid some bonding time? If both parties are legitimately interested in a particular activity and it helps both parties form stronger bonds, why on earth would you go and frost cupcakes together, just to bond the old fashioned way?
Common interests are what bring people together—I would imagine that was the reason that mom and dad found each other interesting and fun to be around, even before kids. Maybe they did frost cupcakes together, but what it came down to was finding ways to bond in all sorts of situations, whether they be an ‘old fashioned way’ or a ‘new school way.’
Don’t worry about what the activity is (within reason, obviously). Worry about finding common ground and make that time that is spent together, well, quality.
What do you think? Do you think dad should put the controller down and go toss the ball around instead? Can you find a balance of both the old fashioned way and the new school way?