Why Your Baby Might Inspire You to Be a Better Person

Something has been on my mind lately, as I sit here, about to become a mother of four children five and under. 

Do we really know what we're getting into when we have children? Are children really all they are chalked up to be?

Sometimes I wonder if we parents are duping ourselves into thinking that parenthood and motherhood and fatherhood are noble and wonderful callings. Let's be honest. Do we need to tell ourselves these things so we can simply get through another day of screaming and tantrums and bone-tired exhaustion?

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Well, OK, some days, maybe yes. 

But on the other days? The days that comprise the bulk of our parenting resumes?

I have to say that having a baby just might inspire you to become a better person

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Allow me to explain. 

When I first became a mother, I was definitely on the path to living a “successful” life. I was extremely goal oriented and determined to check off every box on my list o' life.

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Good grades? Check. 

Full-tuition scholarship? Check. 

Fast-track acceptance to one of the most competitive nursing programs in the state? Check. 

Internship of my dreams down in gorgeous Alexandria near Washington D.C., the hub of it all? Double check. 

Yes, ma'am, I was going places. 

There was only one problem with my carefully laid plans. 

I was completely and utterly miserable. 

I was trapped in a program that I didn't really feel a calling for, too scared to change, and paralyzed with fear about the choices I had made in life. Did I really know what I wanted to be when I “grew up”? What was I doing? Who was I?

It was your pretty standard, mid-college, pre-adult crisis. But what changed me and snapped me out of it was not so standard.

I got pregnant.

I was 21, unmarried, and still living in a run-down student apartment. But suddenly, my vision became crystal clear. There was no more hand-wringing, no more selfish pondering about how hard my life was, or time wasted second-guessing my decisions. I had a baby to think of now.

My life suddenly became about more than me. 

Which is the key to parenthood—the hidden blessing in the sleepless nights, the endless sicknesses, the teething that never ends. Your life suddenly becomes about more than just you. Your decisions, your job, your house, even what food you are placing on your table affects the little person now looking up at you with startlingly familiar eyes. 

Do I believe that having a baby automatically makes you a better, more responsible person?

Absolutely not. 

But I do believe that if you choose, having a baby might inspire you to be a better person—inspire you to focus on what really matters in your life and give you the strength it takes to pursue the life you have always dreamed of. Because ultimately, living life as a parent is about more than just you—

It's about creating a beautiful life for you and your baby. 

What about you? Did having a baby change you for the better? 

What do you think?

Why Your Baby Might Inspire You to Be a Better Person

Chaunie Brusie is a coffee mug addict, a labor and delivery nurse turned freelance writer, and a young(ish) mom of four. She is the author of "Tiny Blue Lines: Preparing For Your Baby, Moving Forward In Faith, & Reclaiming Your Life In An Unplanned Pregnancy" and "The Moments That Made You A Mother". She also runs Passion Meets Practicality, a community of tips + inspiration for work-at-home mothers. ... More

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  1. Profile photo of Angie Angie says:

    Yes!!!!! This has been exactly what I have been thinking! I wish that I could echo your perfect resume, but I was sure headed placed when I was 21, too. But instead, I continued in my misery and misdirection and didn’t get pregnant until 29. I made several poor decisions as result of my misguided misanthropy and purposefully threw away an easy, solid, well-paying career. After having my son, everything now makes sense. I feel alive again and wish I would have done this a long time ago. Why do we tell our kids that having kids is horrible… at least that is the message that I got… My mom always told me to wait till I was done with college to start having kids. It was drilled into my brain and DH and I didn’t start trying until a few months after my graduation with my Master of Science. I never found happiness in my career or in any position. I am now complete and happy now since I have fulfilled my biological purpose. Lol It is natural for us humans to procreate and to breastfeed. Who knew that doing so would result in utter and complete happiness! <> I just wish this would have made sense to me a whole lot earlier. I will certainly model a more balanced and healthy way of life for my LO (I hope that I can make that plural!)

  2. I feel like a different person since I had my son. I have become more driven to ensure that he has a good life. So YES I am inspired by my baby

  3. Profile photo of Sonia Sonia says:

    Great artical:)

  4. Profile photo of mommy nhoj mommy nhoj says:

    The answer is YES. My baby made me a better person. I was now able to put myself in my mother’s shoes 🙂

  5. Profile photo of LIZ says:

    very good article, i just look my babys eyes that make think to be a better person

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