At What Age Should You Stop Kissing Your Kids on the Lips?
As human beings, we seem to function well mentally and emotionally when we are receiving physical affection from our family and loved ones. We yearn for that sort of comfort — for that connection that comes through physical touch.
One of the ways that we go about doing that is through kissing. Do you know why we kiss? I actually have no idea. There's a video that discusses some of the reasons why we may participate in kissing, but I don't necessarily buy his theories. Interesting video, though.
Every so often a story goes around about the specific age when you should stop kissing your kids on the lips. For me, it's been years since I stopped the nonsense of kissing my mom on the lips (even more time has passed since I last kissed my dad on the lips). It just felt weird.
So when is the right time to kiss kissing your kids on the lips goodbye?
Dr. Charlotte Reznick, an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychology at UCLA, thinks that age 5 should be the last year that your kids get lip-to-lip contact with their parents. “The kiss on the lips can be stimulating … It’s just too confusing. If mommy kisses daddy on the mouth and vice versa, what does that mean when I, a little girl or boy, kiss my parent on the mouth?… If I had to answer when to stop kissing your kids on the lips, it would be now.”
I remember one time when my family and I were attending an outdoor show, and my then-3-year-old brother asked my mom if he could give her a kiss. She agreed, and he pulled her in and proceeded to rub his pursed lips side to side on her mouth. That's how he'd seen other people kissing, why would it be any different for him and his mom?
However, in the Yahoo! article, Proactive Parenting coach Sharon Silver said, “If one, or the other, feels weird about kissing on the lips then it’s time to stop, no big deal.”
So, you've got one expert saying that you should have stopped kissing your kid on the lips yesterday, while the other expert says that you should just wait until one of the smooching parties gets weirded out.
What do you think? Did you shy away from kissing your kids on the lips, or is it just like any other kiss? Let us know in the comments.