“Are You Pregnant?” Is It Ever OK to Ask?
Can we all agree that asking someone if she is pregnant is taboo?
Can we all also agree that if you do break the rules of social normalcy and ask a woman if she's pregnant that you don't call her a fat a**?
OK, now that we've all found some common ground, I want to tell you a quick story and then pose a question that may or may not relate directly to the story. You'll just have to find out.
At a bar in Jacksonville, Florida, there was a woman who went out with some of her friends for a girls' night out. Upon arriving at the bar, this unnamed woman was permitted entry by security, but stopped by the owner and was asked if she was pregnant. His establishment has a policy: “No Pregnant Women Allowed.”
She said she wasn't initially offended by the question, but when the owner asked her a second time if she was pregnant, that's when she started to get a little bothered.”I didn't get offended until he pulled me back and said ‘Well are you sure?' and I'm like ‘I'm sure I'm not pregnant' I would know if I was pregnant, and he pointed to the sign that evidently said ‘No Pregnant Women Allowed,'” the woman said in an interview with Jacksonville's CBS affiliate.
The unnamed woman's friend heard what was going on with the man and was taken aback. She spoke up, and was subsequently called a”fat a**” by the owner and was told to leave.
Really, this is a reprehensible episode of people treating people poorly based on their weight.
But I want to bring up another point: Do we all share the responsibility of protecting unborn children? I'm assuming that the reason for not allowing pregnant women into the bar was so that the unborn baby would be protected from birth defects that could potentially come from alcohol consumption.
But is that the responsibility of the bar, or is it the responsibility of the mother? Disneyland doesn't bar pregnant women from riding the rides. They clearly put a sign outside of the ride that advises pregnant women against riding, but they aren't forcing the issue.
However, people, unborn or born, deserve protection from whomever feels like giving it. If a bar wants to help with lowering birth defects or fetal alcohol syndrome, can you really blame them for that? (Obviously ignoring the terrible way that the Jacksonville bar handled the situation.)
What do you think? Is it the mother's responsibility to go easy on the alcohol during pregnancy, or should we all do what we can to help protect others' unborn children?
Chime in and let me know what you think.