“Are You STILL Pregnant?” How to Respond Politely to the Worst Pregnancy Questions Ever
There’s something about a pregnant belly that seems to invite strangers to comment and ask questions. While most of the questions and comments are friendly and supportive, there are times (lots of times) when people ask insensitive, intrusive, and downright rude questions. (In that last trimester it can sometimes feel like “Are you still pregnant?” is a constant refrain.)
If you’ve found yourself on the receiving end of a question that’s rude or just way too personal you might have answered even though you didn’t want to, told them to butt out, or been too stunned to respond at all. While you might want to snap back at these questions there are times, like when you’re at work, that you might find you have to be polite. Being polite doesn't mean sharing details of your life you don’t want to though.
If you’re looking for the right language to respond politely to some of the most commonly asked rude pregnancy questions check out the list below for some ideas!
“Was it planned?”
Maybe it was or maybe it wasn't but there’s absolutely no one in the whole wide world who needs to know whether your baby was a planned addition to your family or a surprise blessing.
When some asks you if your pregnancy was planning you can respond with something vague that doesn’t really answer their question at all like, “All part of the bigger plan!”
“Are you disappointed to be having another boy/girl?”
Whether you have all girls, all boys, or a mix of kids, you might get asked if you’re disappointed in the sex of your baby. Whether you might or might not have been wishing for things to go one way, chances are you’re excited and happy about the baby you’re growing, not reeling with disappointment. Even if you are feeling a little down about it, you certainly don't have to share your feelings with anyone. When someone asks this and you need to be polite you can respond, “We’re excited to be bringing someone new to love into the world.”
“Are you planning to deliver naturally/breastfeed/cloth diaper?”
Sometimes people ask these questions because they want to offer support, sometimes though they ask just to be judgmental. If you get the feeling they’re just being judgy but you still need to be polite you can respond, “We’re doing lots of research and feel confident we’re going to make the right decision for our family.”
“Are you still pregnant?”
In the last weeks, and sometimes months, of your pregnancy you might find other people asking this question with shock in their eyes every time they see you. While it doesn’t feel good to have others stressing you out about your upcoming due date, there are ways to respond that are both to the point and polite like, “the baby will come when it’s ready,” or, simply, “Yes.