A Letter to First-Time Moms-To-Be

letter to first time moms

Dear first-time mom-to-be,

I remember when I was you. I watched my belly grow and felt my little boy move and kick, and make his presence known to my bladder. I took pictures, wanting to preserve forever the way I looked when I carried him, and to capture the array of emotions I felt as a first-time mother-to-be. I veered from excited to slightly terrified; from being sure I could do this to, no way, I don't think I'm cut out for this.

I remember thinking that 9 months is an incredibly long time to be pregnant, yet, it was almost like I blinked and the tiny rice-like embryo grew into what felt (and looked) like a  watermelon under my maternity shirts.

I remember thinking that I needed to enjoy “just me” time, sleeping in, and date nights with my husband, because I was told over and over that those days would be a distant memory. 

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I remember wistfully putting aside my favorite clothes as my body morphed to accommodate my son. I remember having to buy new shoes because goodness, feet can still grow when you're an adult. I remember taking off my wedding ring as my fingers swelled in proportion to the rest of me. I remember looking at stretch marks that were not there before, and wondering if I would ever look the same again.

Dear first-time mom-to-be, hold on to these memories, because you will need to go back to them again, and again, when you step over from “mother-to-be” to just “mother”. Because when things get hard (and they will at some point), you need to go back to the place where you remember how much you wanted this baby you're now holding.

You will remember how you couldn't wait to meet him, even as you wish you were somewhere else when your baby cries for reasons you can't discern. You will remember decorating the nursery and carefully choosing that crib that she doesn't seem to want to sleep in. You will remember buying those impossibly tiny clothes that feel like the most difficult thing ever to put on a wriggling infant. 

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You will remember how often you touched your belly and smiled when you felt him kick you from inside, even as he now accidentally head butts you while figuring out how his body works. You will remember the tears of joy you cried when she was born, even when you cry into your pillow now because you are just so tired, and haven't gone out of the house in days. 

Because dear first-time mom-to-be, there are also the many great joys of being a mother. You will fall in deep, deep love. You will feel your heart grow to the point of bursting. You will see this tiny person that you created, and all the miracles of how a human being grows up. You will watch with pride as your baby reaches milestones. You will celebrate them all. You will remember the laughs and smiles, the hugs and cuddles, the big moments and the small ones.

So even as you go through the hard times, remember that they will pass. But do not forget that the good ones will too. So ride out the tough days, and savor the good ones, and know that the days may seem long, but trust me when I say, the years are short.


Much love,

A mom

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A Letter to First-Time Moms-To-Be

Alison Lee is a former PR and marketing professional turned work-at-home mother. After a 10-year career in various PR agencies, and of the world’s biggest sports brands, she traded in product launches and world travel, for sippy cups, diapers, and breastfeeding. Alison is a former blogger (Writing, Wishing), and her writing has been featured on Mamalode,On Parenting at The Washington Post,The Huffington Post, Everyday Family, Scary Mommy, Club Mid, andDrGreene.com. She is one of 35 essayists ... More

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  1. Julie B says:

    Thank you Alison for the wonderful letter. I’ve had a very trying pregnancy and it’s almost over. I’m in my last month and it feels like this has taken forever to get to this point. Many times, I’ve thought if this was really worth it. Many people have told me of course it is, but lately I haven’t felt that way. Your letter has just confirmed that yes it is worth all the aggravation, tears, sickness, nausea, and up and downs with my crazy blood sugars (I’m a newly diagnosted type 2 diabetic). Thank you for giving this soon to be new momma reassurance that she is doing all the right things.

    • SarahMike says:

      I get paid over $90 per hour working from home with 2 kids at home. I never thought I’d be able to do it but my best friend earns over 10k a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The potential with this is endless. Heres what I’ve been doing,


    • Alison Lee says:

      Julie, you are almost there! Hang on in there. I’m glad you found this letter useful. Good luck!

  2. Diana says:

    wow great post, thanks.

  3. Amber says:

    such good advice! 🙂

  4. Alison Lee says:

    Diana, congratulations on both your pregnancy and your little one’s almost-first birthday! It is amazing, and a privilege, to be a mother. Enjoy!

  5. DIANA says:

    Ugh this made me shed some tears . Could be because I’m due in a few weeks or because my little miracle is about to turn 1 already ? This is the most beautiful experience a woman can go thru . I’m exhausted but I wouldn’t trade it for the world :-). Thank you for this wonderful letter

  6. Alison Lee says:

    Thank you Greta!

  7. Alison Lee says:

    Or something else? 🙂

  8. Alison Lee says:

    Thank you so much, Christine!

  9. gfunkified says:

    Pregnancy, when not completely overwhelming physically and emotionally, is such a magical time. Love this post.

  10. Oh, Alison, you’re always so spot on. Lovely. Made me tear up. (Although that could be the exhaustion speaking, too.)

  11. cyu888 says:

    This is a beautiful post Alison! I would have loved a letter like this when I was first pregnant.

  12. Alison Lee says:

    You’re welcome. 🙂

  13. KaelinRae says:

    Thank you for the advice 🙂

  14. smooty54 says:

    oh pregnancy! such a bitter-sweet time in a woman’s life! I’m grateful!


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