6 Simple Dating Rules for Single Parents

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Image via iStock/AleksandarNakic

 

Dear Single Parent,

You’ve been thinking about dating for quite some time. And now that you’ve bungled things up by admitting this to a few close friends, who are happily paired with helpful, loving partners, they want to introduce you to a cute, promising individual. But you have a harsh, realistic grip on life; and the idea of dating sounds simply exhausting. Plus, you know that once you officially decide to play this dating game – again – it will be an entirely different, unfamiliar sport. It includes your child.

Your friends can’t fathom your resistance, nor do they fully understand the extent of your exhaustion. So, please, indulge for me a moment as I describe the life you know all too well, because this might enlighten your friends, and thwart any existing ideas they have about pushing their newly divorced/separated pal out to play, before you’ve had time to learn the rules.

One day in my life

The alarm goes off a tad bit earlier than others might imagine. You pack your child’s lunch and make breakfast for your child (and maybe even for yourself – maybe). Then you wake your child. And after force-feeding this tired child, you get him/her dressed. Then you rush to get yourself ready as you entertain your child, and then prepare your child’s bag for daycare (if you haven’t done that already).
You pack up the car and drive – in rush hour – to daycare, and finally, to your place of work. You work a full day, which means dealing with co-workers, bosses, deadlines, and office drama. When the eight-hour work day is complete, you travel back to the daycare, where you’re told about the new and exciting milestones your child has achieved that day, which sadly you missed, but the bubbling teacher was so happy to witness. (Or, alternatively, you learn what new misfortunes your emotionally troubled child unleashed that day.) Then, you begin the drive home – in rush hour.
After making a “quick” stop at the grocery store to buy the necessities, you simultaneously carry your child and all of the grocery bags inside. After putting some sort of “nutritious” dinner on the table, you bathe your child and put him/her into bed. Then you clean up the dishes from dinner, and … if your child stays asleep … you finally have a limited amount of time for yourself – only to realize that you are alone. And there is nothing left in your mental or physical engine for anything. 

Maybe this isn’t an exact description of your day; but after my divorce, this was mine. And when I finally decided to, once again, tackle the world of dating, there were some clear-cut rules to follow. If you are ready to begin dating, you’ll need to write these down.

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6 Simple Dating Rules for Single Parents

Kimberly Shannon is a wife, a mother, an editor, a writer ... She is always working to find the perfect balance¹! After Kimberly received her bachelor’s degree in Journalism, she worked on two master’s degree programs (Creative Writing, and Marriage and Family Therapy). At various times in her life she has signed up to study Naturopathy, only to back out at the last minute, and humored the idea of returning full-time to the world of dance. Kimberly has also started 10 different children ... More

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  1. I really liked reading this. Great information as well. 🙂

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