5 Secrets for Stress-Free Parenting
It’s official. We are the most stressed out generation of parents. Stress-free parenting does not seem to be the norm nor the exception.
A new study from the DDB Worldwide Communications Group revealed that millennial moms feel more pressure and stress than their own mothers did before them in the baby boomer generation.
In short, mothering today is much more intensive than it was even ten or twenty years ago. Gone are the days of kicking kids outside to play alone and calling them home for dinner. Today’s parents are conditioned to be heavily involved, emotionally invested, career and self-esteem coaches, and all-around selfless vessels of undying love.
But the heavy-hitting form of parenting comes with a price. As an article in the Chicago Tribune explains, “About 30 percent of the young moms surveyed said they felt like they lost their identity because they were moms, compared with 10 percent of older moms.”
Not exactly great news for newly-expecting mothers, right? But the good news is, you can (and should) prepare during your pregnancy to be a happy, stress-free mom.
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1. Give yourself time to get your body back. There is an unbelievable amount of pressure for new moms to “get their bodies back” after having a baby. And while I fully, fully understand how the post-partum period can be hard because you just don’t feel all like yourself, I can also assure you that the benefits of enjoying your baby are so much more important than stressing over your body. You will start to feel like more of yourself again, I promise, but for some women, it simply takes more time than others. Give yourself at least a year or until you are done breastfeeding (it’s my theory that breastfeeding actually makes you hold onto excess weight) before you worry about whipping yourself into shape. You won’t remember the time you spent exercising but I guarantee you that you will remember those precious moments cuddling your baby.
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2. Educate your partner on the signs of post-partum depression. While it’s incredibly important for you to know the signs of PPD, especially if you’ve had an unplanned pregnancy, it’s even more important that your partner is aware of the signs too. When you are suffering from PPD, it’s easy to push away help or deny the situation, but if your partner is aware and on alert for what to watch out for, he may be able to intervene more quickly.
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3. Establish communication now. The single hardest part about becoming a mother? The shocking and overwhelming reality of it all. Sure, in theory, you may think you know what having a baby is like, but the truth is, once junior arrives on the scene you may very well be blown away by how difficult and time-consuming having a baby is. It is so easy, especially if you are breastfeeding, to find yourself growing resentful of your partner’s role; so early on in your pregnancy, set up open lines of communication so you can freely head off problems before they explode in those sleep deprived first days. Even something as easy as, “Hey, honey, I’m feeling like you’re not understanding how hard breastfeeding is,” can do the trick to get the conversation going.
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4. Don’t lose sight of fun. Just remember, it doesn’t all have to be hard. There have been times when I’ve been so exhausted that a screaming baby in the middle of the night makes me want to whip a dirty diaper at my husband’s head; instead, I’ve found if we learn to laugh about it, that nighttime screaming session suddenly gets a whole lot easier. Keep your sense of humor about pregnancy and navigating parenthood and I promise, it will make all the difference.
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5. Give yourself permission to change your mind. You may have been dead set on attachment parenting or certain you would never allow your baby to have anything except breast milk. I get it. We all want to be the best parents we can possibly be. But sometimes (or most of the time) parenting is a fast lesson in on-the-job training. The most important thing you can do to ensure that you are a stress-free is to give yourself permission to change your mind. No guilt allowed.
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