5 Reasons I’m Glad We Have a Large Family

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As I'm rounding the corner into my second trimester of what will be my fourth (and hopefully last) pregnancy, I have to admit that I have some reservations about becoming a mother to four kids that are ages six and under. 

Not only will all my kids be spaced exactly two years apart, but in today's day and age, it definitely feels like a family of six is considered a “large” family. My husband and I both grew up in families of six, so having four children in a family doesn't sound that unusual to us.

That being said, when I recently found out that we are expecting number four, I definitely panicked a bit. Were we crazy? What would people think of us? Is having four children completely irresponsible? 

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Eventually, my misgivings gave way to common sense. Every parental unit knows what is best for their own family, whether that be one child or 19, so it is completely pointless for me to waste time wondering if other people “approve” of my unconventionally “large” family. What matters is focusing on the good that my family can bring to the world and to each other. So today, I'm focusing on some of the benefits that our family of six has. 

 

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1. Our children will always have each other. While I know there's no guarantee that they will grow up and stay close, of course, it brings me great joy and comfort to know that my children will always have each other to lean on in good times and bad. To this day, I am still very close to all three of my siblings, as is my husband to his, and I am grateful to have them in my life. 

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2. The special moments happen more often. Honestly, is there anything more fun in life than hearing a baby's first belly laugh or watching those first shaky steps across the living room floor? Having the “firsts” over and over with each child somehow never gets old. 

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3. My older children will learn how to take care of babies. Babies are a part of life, and my children have grown up around tons of cousins, family members, and, of course, our own family, giving them plenty of practice for taking care of babies. From helping change diapers to even help with feeding, I think there is much for older siblings to gain from learning to help mom and dad with the littlest members of the family. 

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4. Security.  I don't mean security in the terms you may be thinking–financial security or security that there will be someone to take care of us in our old age. (Although, now that I think about it, not a bad idea either …) What I'm talking about is the security of knowing that we have created a family that will stay together. I have to admit that I'm somewhat of a loner; I enjoy my time alone and having a large family has forced me, in a way, to embrace the blessings of spending time together and learn to be less selfish. Plus, think of the fun at all of our future family gatherings!

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5. Large families can benefit children as they grow. Obviously, that's not to say that children in smaller families won't turn out to be perfectly fine and happy, but there are definite characteristics and strengths to be had in siblings of large families—everything from learning to share to decreased risks of food allergies and obesity, which I find very reassuring. 

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Do you come from a large family? Do you have a large family? What are the benefits you have seen? 

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5 Reasons I’m Glad We Have a Large Family

Chaunie Brusie is a writer, mom of four, and founder of The Stay Strong Mom, a community + gift box service for moms after loss. ... More

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15 comments

  1. Latasha says:

    OMG, when I read the summary of your blog, I had to do a double take and wonder did I write this… lol. I have a tribe or crew too (what I like to call growing family) :). About 5 years ago, I was in your position, 3 children under 6 and 1 on the way and the icing on the cake, a step daughter that was 13 at the time too. Thinking am I nuts, we had to upgrade our car to 2 suv’s: Ford Excursion and a Suburban just to fit us all comfortably. As the years have gone by, I must say I don’t know how life would be any other way. I love the bond my children have with each other, sure they fight and bicker but that just makes for an interesting day. They communicate well and all went to the same elementary school so every teacher knew who my kids were, that made for a safer environment for them. We ate out less and enjoyed family meals at home more often. Enjoy your large family and trust me there will never be a dull moment. 🙂 Oh yeah and start saving, saving, saving cause it appears everyone needs glasses, new shoes and clothes all around the same time. Thanks for the article and guding me to give my 2 cents.

  2. Jeanne says:

    For me the hardest part was figuring out how to fit 5 car seats in a car! We have 5 kiddos 5 and under (2 sets of twins) and car seats were always an issue. Thank goodness the oldest twins were able to fit in boosters when they turned 4.5 so that helped. We’re lucky they love their baby twin sisters and help to keep them occupied. @Tiffany – take a look at the Nissan NV – I’ve got my eye on it for when the kids get older and we’ll need more cargo room!

  3. laura says:

    I come from a big family and my mom had 4 children, and I produced 8 within a 9 year period. In my time as mother I find that yes its very hard to raise a big family, but I am happy that I have a big family because, my kids was never without someone 2 play with. They learned to share. They learned 2 take care of each other and most of all they learned to love each other.

  4. Austin says:

    I definitely don’t want a large family, but if you do that is absolutely none of my business. If you can afford them and want lots of children then don’t listen to anyone else’s negative opinions.

  5. I come from a family of 4 and for me never think it was too much 4 kids, and my husband from a 16 kids, we really want a big family for now we just have the first one, and we hope soon come the next one.

  6. tiffany says:

    I am a mother of 5 soon to be 6 and although I get stressed at times I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world. If I could change one thing in this world is that more car company’s come up with a more stylish vehicle for large families. We barely fit in a few vehicles and if our family grows or we want to have a friend tag along we have to have 2 vehicles just to go somewhere or buy an ugly white van that reminds you of a school bus. For other parents who have alot of small ones it will eventually get easier. I will finally get all but 2 in school or pre k in the fall. That is almost a vacation for me.

  7. fadumo says:

    I don’t understand why it’s people’s business how many kids you want to have, I think the world is getting crazy over this, cam on it’s another blessing from the creator and imagine how much you will love that child and it will love you the same so why put so much chemical in your body that might hurt you one day just to prevent life? Why? For me I don’t get it and I am sure alot of people are not getting me either so just say I am crazy it’s fair.

  8. mommy nhoj says:

    I came from a big family. We’re five and I am the eldest 🙂 On the contrary, my husband is the one and only son. He’s thankful most of the times that I am acting like a big sis in terms of giving but what he hates most is whenever I nag and act like he’s a little brother to me 🙂 We wish to have at least 2 kids and 3 kids at the most.

    I have to agree that there are indeed advantages having a big family. Yes, resources can be scarced at times but my parents did strive for it and all of us able to finish college except for the youngest on his 4th of 5th year! This article made me miss them so because I am at the other side of the world now.

  9. Leslie says:

    I love small families. I hated my big family I was in.

  10. Melinda says:

    We have 6 children! So, for us it is nice when our oldest ones help w/the younger ones while it is meal prep time! We are blended family-the oldest being my step-son, but he is still counted in our family obviously! He plays right along w/the younger ones with the Lego’s or giving horsey rides for our 2yr .old-she can be very demanding!! And our 9yr. old daughter is very helpful w/our 8mo. old daughter! And now-FINALLY-our middle two aged 7 & 5 are getting along better and playing beside each other and sharing computer time! Yes, it can get really loud in our house when all 6 are together and the 2 dogs howling, but they were given to us by God! So, they are a blessing-even on the days they don’t seem to be! 🙂

    • Lisa says:

      Gotcha beat! We have 7 kids, 2 dogs, 2 horses, 2 ducks, 5 chickens and a cat! Our house is never completely clean although usually one room at a time is lol. It’s loud and crazy and most people think we are absolutely nuts…. Especially when we tell them I just had my birth control removed so we could try for #8!!! I wouldn’t trade my life for anything. There’s something in the giggles during family movie nights and whispered secrets between sisters, fights over who sits next to mom at the dinner table and the sound of matchbox cars on a wooden floor that makes my life complete.

  11. JLD92408 says:

    People always think I’m crazy when I tell them I WANT four children. Before I had my daughter it was “wait until you have one, you’ll rethink that.” Now that I have a child it’s “wait until you have another, you’ll change your mind.” I won’t. I want a big family. Always have!

  12. sayhola says:

    #2 is only 7 weeks old, but I’m going to be 38 soon, and I sure hope hubby lets me have another! 😉

  13. Michelle says:

    I have 4 children! 3 boys, 8,6 and 4 and one beautiful little princess who is 1. I am lucky in that my kids are incredibly close. There are days that I wonder when it will get easier. But, most days I am just so glad that it is crazy and chaotic. My house is not clean or quiet, but it is full of love and laughter!

  14. Phammom says:

    Reasons i want a big family.

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