Baby Blues

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Baby blues is such a cute sounding name for a problem that doesn't feel cute at all. One of the things that strikes me as sad is how many women have a distorted idea of what motherhood is like, and what they should be feeling, or how they should be acting. Every woman is different, and how she will react is different; there is nothing wrong with that.

The American Congress of Obstetrics and Gynecology report that about 70-80% of women have baby blues after childbirth; it usually happens a few days after giving birth and goes away without treatment.

I remember a woman who, after having her baby, was sad because her baby didn't look like the “Gerber” baby, and another who didn't feel like bells rang and birds chirped when she saw her little one for the first time.

We women can be so hard on ourselves; we think that we should just know what to do when it comes to our babies. We watch TV and read magazines that help us come up with our own unattainable fantasies about how we are going to have the perfect baby and how we will raise them like the perfect mothers we are. Nothing is perfect. We are all works in progress, and we continue to learn along the way.

The Baby Blues can make you feel like you are anxious, depressed, or upset with yourself, your spouse, your baby, and possibly your other children. If you are crying for no reason and/or having trouble eating or sleeping, it is possible you are experiencing the Baby Blues. The American Congress of Obstetrics and Gynecology report that about 70-80% of women have baby blues after childbirth; it usually happens a few days after giving birth and goes away without treatment.

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There are some things that you can do that may help the way you feel about your whole situation.

Get rest
I know you have all heard, “sleep when the baby sleeps”, and although it is tempting to do housework, catch up on phone calls, or maybe throw a meal together, it would benefit you during the first few weeks to get as much sleep as you can (sometimes sleeping when the baby sleeps doesn't get you much sleep).

Ask for help

Don't be afraid to ask for help. Think of all those people who said “Let me know if you need anything;” take them up on this offer. You would be surprised how happy people would be to give you a few hours break, time to take a worry free nap, help with a few loads of laundry, a prepared dinner, or a clean house (even a straightened up house). It makes them feel good to do something for you, and it will make a difference in how you feel.

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If the “baby blues” don't improve or get worse, you may have something a little more intense that is called “postpartum depression”. Talk to your doctor to find out what steps need to be taken to resolve these feelings.

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Baby Blues

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15 comments

  1. Courtney says:

    I never napped when my baby slept. I wouldn’t say that I had baby blues though, as I have had depression for years. I did have anxiety for the first 2 months though.

  2. christina says:

    with my frist child I never had any baby blues. I always took naps when my son slept to keep up with the energy I would need to keep going on. This will be my second child, so it might be a little harder than just having one around but I got family and friends who are willing to help me out.

  3. shelia says:

    Baby Blues is a sad thing. Think God I don`t have it.

  4. Sierra-Dawn says:

    Asking for help is heard

  5. leena says:

    very informative post

  6. mjvmama says:

    I had the baby blues bad I am fortunate to have such a great husband or i think i would have never slept and fallen into the PPD category.

  7. Janice says:

    Postpartum Depression or baby blues, is not uncommon.

  8. Dominique says:

    I think this is so very important it helps out a lot

  9. dyna5150 says:

    My mom met me for lunch when my son was about 3 weeks. She took one look at me and said "I’m coming over tomorrow and you’e taking a nap." I got 6 straight hours of sleep, and when I woke up I felt so muchbetter that got my house cleaned up! I feel so much better when my house is clean. It really helps with my baby blues!

  10. mamalue says:

    Sometimes i get baby blues being a mother of three an single

  11. shalayaeddie says:

    My son’s dad is always working so I had baby blues for a couple of months but once my daughter came back home she was a big relief to my baby blues being that she’d help out with taking care of her lil brother and house chores.

  12. Faleshia says:

    Ive had the baby blues with both of my children but this time around i have already started the process of trying to get them under control so that i dont have the same issues i did in the past. and i have also got a schedule ready for those that would like to help can!

  13. I didn’t have the baby blues with my first child, but I think that I did feel very overwhelmed. I didn’t have any help for the first 2 weeks…finally my mom came to check on me and said that I looked horrible! She took my son and watched him so that I could finally get some sleep and a decent meal (I hadn’t been eating or sleeping). Asking for help is probably the best advice to give a new mom. It’s something that many of us hate to do, but a new baby can be exhausting. I’m now pregnant with my second child and I am trying to plan it so that my husband will be home with me for the first few days and I have asked my mom and mother in law to stop in and help some after that if needed.

  14. canniclee says:

    I think I had the Baby Blues the first time around w, with my first child, but this time, I am having a much easier time with my little one, I guess from having a little experience this time around.

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