Am I Ready for This?

pregnant womanSomewhere between finding out you are pregnant and the delivery of your new little bundle of joy comes a phase I like to call – I'm so not ready for this. This is just your anxiety about being a new mom, underestimating your qualifications, and thinking about the preparations for your new role.

It seems sometimes we get so excited about an idea that we don't really think about what it really means. I remember when I was pregnant with my first child; I was so happy. Then, around 24 weeks gestation, I hit this phase. First, I was overwhelmed with the fact that this little one, who was growing so well and was getting so big, would have to come out one way or another. After that hurdle, I started to think about the fact that this new little baby wouldn't be going home; no one would be picking her up at the end of the day because she WAS home. We were going to be parents, and this is a life changing event! Although I knew these things before we decided to start a family, the reality of the situation really hit home one day. Maybe it was a mix of hormones, maternity tales from every stranger, friend, and relative, and a look at your life and the things that need to be changed, but it happened all at once… I was so not ready for this.

At the time, I thought something was wrong with me; maybe I was too selfish, too set in my ways, or just terrified, but later I learned that most new moms go through this. If you doubt this, ask one of the “oh so well meaning” strangers that come up to you to entertain you with stories of how long…how short…how fast…how horrible…or how great their labor and deliver/newborn experience was. They will also (if they are being honest) tell you about their anxiety, when it hit them, and how they got over it.

The way to overcome this anxiousness of becoming a new mom is to talk to other women you trust, both first time moms and moms with experience. To help with these feelings, you can fill yourself up with information on new moms and what they go through, join an online Mom Club, or, if you're up to it, find a local chapter. Just know that these feelings usually go away, especially when you gain knowledge and get experience. The fact that you are worried at all means that you care, and you will do what you can to make everything work. Whatever you do, know you aren't alone, and if your feelings don't improve in a few weeks, check in with your doctor or accredited medical personnel.

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  1. victoria says:

    I still can’t shake the feeling that I’m not ready. My financial situation is in turmoil at the moment and the baby will be here in 3 months. I don’t see how my situation will get better but I hope it does.

  2. Dario says:

    I think we’re both a little scared inside..

  3. monette3 says:

    I have moments like this all of the time!

  4. Elfie says:

    This is a great article! I definatly went through it

  5. verochka31 says:

    i know that it wont be all too easy at first, but I am so ready for baby #5!!

  6. alisha says:

    Around 26 weeks I became really anxious and worried started feeling depressed with all the thoughts I was having but it soon passed. I still worry sometimes but when I do I try to focus on the positive and do something uplifting.

  7. calebsmom says:

    I get so nervous when i think about things

  8. I worry about this all the time. Am I ready to put someone else’s needs before my own every time? Scary.

  9. tammy says:

    aww best wishes to you!

  10. sej518 says:

    My daughter was a huge surprise and I am going to be a single mom so I worry about this every day.

  11. Lynette says:

    Ready or not,when your pregnant,in 9mnths,baby is here,n even though you had nerves throughout,you fall in love w/ur baby u just meet!! <3<3

  12. i wonder this everyday, am i ready for number 3 🙂

  13. Julie says:

    I still have days like this. I wonder how I am going to do this and start to panic because I have never taken care of a newborn and don’t know what to do. People try to reassure me that my "mother instincts" will kick in as soon as she’s born but I can’t help but to wonder if I’m going to be able to do this, but ready or not I am 37 weeks and she’s coming.

  14. I remember feeling like this with my first kid.

  15. Sasoo says:

    I think I spent so many years speaking to moms and caring for children I feel as ready as I can be at this point. Bring him on!!

  16. Ms.Mora says:

    Ready or not…I’m half way there!

  17. desiree says:

    i think i am ready ^_^

  18. marichinno says:

    I was ready with my 1st two babies but this 3rd time around I feel like I am not ready since it has been 5 yrs since I had my 2nd baby.

  19. McKenzie says:

    I was always ready to have my two kids.

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