Alone with You
There is an old Mills Brothers' song called “I Don't Mind Being Alone As Long As I'm Alone With You.” Even if you don't know the tune, there's something to be gained from their lovely lyrics. The bottom line, finding time alone with your partner is worth the effort.
Sometimes it's a challenge. Your relationship may be “old,” meaning established. All of a sudden, you have a new little person in your lives. Why in the world would you want to be alone anymore?
For some of you, you may have waited for what feels like a lifetime for this new addition. You may have spent the last months, or even years, dreaming of the moments you would spend with this child. Now, they are here. With all that anticipation and the vision of the moments you spend together, it may be unimaginable to spend any time without them. Although those feelings are understandable, it is important to take a step back and see the “big” picture.
You, your partner, and your child are a family. In order for all to be happy and healthy, it's important to keep the connection strong between each of you, including you and your partner. And, quite simply, this means taking time for you, together – alone.
Sad but true, one day, this young child will grow into a young adult and branch out on his or her own. Unfortunately, there are couples that split up after their child has grown for they no longer feel a connection between each other. Their love centered on their child. Though certainly every child should be showered with love and be a centerpiece of the family, a relationship must also be maintained between the adults in the household.
As fun as it is to sing, dance, and act silly with our children, it's a challenge to interact as adults with this hubbub of activity. Take time to talk, to simply sit quietly with each other, or to enjoy similar interests such as a movie, book or music. Alone time participating in such interests will not only assist in maintaining a healthy relationship, but will also support growth in the relationship.
So, sing along. Sing with someone special in your life: “I don't mind being alone, as long as I am alone with you.”