Alone with You

happy coupleThere is an old Mills Brothers' song called “I Don't Mind Being Alone As Long As I'm Alone With You.” Even if you don't know the tune, there's something to be gained from their lovely lyrics. The bottom line, finding time alone with your partner is worth the effort.

Sometimes it's a challenge. Your relationship may be “old,” meaning established. All of a sudden, you have a new little person in your lives. Why in the world would you want to be alone anymore?

For some of you, you may have waited for what feels like a lifetime for this new addition. You may have spent the last months, or even years, dreaming of the moments you would spend with this child. Now, they are here. With all that anticipation and the vision of the moments you spend together, it may be unimaginable to spend any time without them. Although those feelings are understandable, it is important to take a step back and see the “big” picture.

You, your partner, and your child are a family. In order for all to be happy and healthy, it's important to keep the connection strong between each of you, including you and your partner. And, quite simply, this means taking time for you, together – alone.

Sad but true, one day, this young child will grow into a young adult and branch out on his or her own. Unfortunately, there are couples that split up after their child has grown for they no longer feel a connection between each other. Their love centered on their child. Though certainly every child should be showered with love and be a centerpiece of the family, a relationship must also be maintained between the adults in the household.

As fun as it is to sing, dance, and act silly with our children, it's a challenge to interact as adults with this hubbub of activity. Take time to talk, to simply sit quietly with each other, or to enjoy similar interests such as a movie, book or music. Alone time participating in such interests will not only assist in maintaining a healthy relationship, but will also support growth in the relationship.

So, sing along. Sing with someone special in your life: “I don't mind being alone, as long as I am alone with you.”

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  1. Maria says:

    This is a really great article. My husband and I have three children all under the age of ten and it’s hard to find time alone. We have been doing a lot more talking lately and are planning a date night real soon. We love our children a bunch but we have also come to the realization that we need to spend more time alone with each other.

  2. shelia says:

    Me and my husband need more alone time.

  3. Karleen says:

    I totally agree with this article. My husband and I always try to be alone when we can. Our daughter is 2 1/2 yrs old and we have our son on the way. We know how important it is to keep our relationship strong in order to have a strong family.

  4. Phammom says:

    Family time #1 but time as a couple is also very important, as it improves family and co parenting.

  5. Stephanie says:

    I like to call it us time

  6. Anastacia113 says:

    Our "Alone time" happens after our babies are sleeping and usually consist of killing zombies on his PS3, it is really the only alone time we have except for date night. I dont mind though.

  7. diana says:

    it is so hard to get alone time for us during the week it has to be after 8pm that the kids go to sleep and during the weekend well is almost impossible to find someone that will stay with the kids…

  8. sheenaholman says:

    Its crazy how much changes with a new addition to the family

  9. verochka31 says:

    the only alone time I have with my husband is after 9 pm every night after the children are down for the night. we don’t have any help with the children to get away. don’t mind it too much but it would be nice once in awhile.

  10. Melody says:

    continual dating is so important!

  11. jody says:

    I found this article most helpful. As stated above my world and most of my free time revolve around my 2yr old as you would think it should be. They don’t stay young long and you want them know from the beginning that they mean the world to you but so does your other half. The child wouldn’t be present if it wasn’t for both parent. Thanks for the advise!!!

  12. MLS says:

    Time alone is great for both of u

  13. Sasoo says:

    Take time, bottom line

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