6 Things Every Dad Should Teach His Sons
I remember watching my son hit his brother for the first time. I remember thinking to myself, “Where did he learn that?” My sister-in-law spent a great deal of effort trying to keep toy guns and weapons out of the hands of her sons. But one evening, when they were visiting her family, her two sons burst into the room, holding Barbie dolls by the head, upside down, using them as swords.
Some things just come naturally to boys. These types of things just seem to be built-in; however, other, and quite frankly, more important things are not. Some things take a little more parental effort to instill in our sons. For these things, they have a dad to teach them.
The next few slides will show you what I think a dad should be teaching his son(s).
How to Cook Spaghetti:
A dad should teach his sons how to be self-reliant and be able to cook, clean, and do other daily duties. I picked spaghetti because it’s a relatively simple and inexpensive meal that packs a little more nutrition than spam or Ramen noodles. Too many boys leave home without being able to cook a decent meal, clean up after themselves, or manage themselves and their money. Self-reliance doesn’t mean that they never need help, it just means that they can rely on themselves for regular needs.
How to Build a Fort:
My sons know that I have a hard time with tools and building things. Last summer, we built a fort together out of scraps of wood. I made many mistakes, and it took much longer than it should have, but we finished. My boys loved it, and they were so proud of themselves for building it. It may not be building a fort for you and your son(s), but the sentiment is to teach them to do something that is hard and to persevere even though it is difficult.
How to Make Good Decisions:
I think that men (even more than women) need to learn to allow themselves time to think and make decisions wisely rather than letting others choose for them. Teach them to let virtues and values, not money, hormones, or self-interest, dictate their choices
How to Hug Their Mom:
Fathers need to teach their sons to value their mother and women in general. Teach them to never objectify women and to treat them with respect and honor. Sons that have dads that treat their mom well will become husbands that treat their wives well.
How to Rock, Change, and Feed a Baby:
Dads should teach their sons to be servant leaders. Teach them to plan on doing more for others than others do for them. Teach them to enjoy and appreciate the happiness that comes from helping others. Caring for a baby is a great opportunity because babies do not have the capacity to give back the way in which people have come to expect; however, there is an unmistakable joy that comes from it.
How to Dig a Hole, and Then Play with Cars in That Hole:
Sons, more than ever, need to learn the value of work and how to work hard. They need to learn how to work hard but to realize that there is more to life than work. Sometimes, even play takes hard work. Getting better at a sport or an instrument takes time and effort, but we do it because we love it. Enjoy life and take pride in the work you do. Wear yourself out with hard work, and then play until you collapse from exhaustion.
In no way is this list exhaustive, but it is some of the essentials that I feel a father should not allow a son to leave home without.
What do you think are some of the essentials that dads should teach their sons?