So You’re at Odds with Your Partner about Having More Kids. Now What?

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It would be very unwise to ignore the issues, agree to disagree, and then go ahead and have another child. 

Ask just about any parent, and he or she will say that children are one of the greatest joys of life and one of the greatest responsibilities. The decision to have children is one that should never be taken lightly, and it should always be agreed upon by both you and your partner.

But sometimes you don’t always see things eye to eye, especially when it comes to having more children. So what should you do if the two of you are at odds on this issue? 

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I wish I could tell you that there’s a simple solution, but there’s not. However, there are several things that the two of you can do to work through this sticky dilemma without damaging your relationship or making a decision that one or both of you will seriously regret down the road. This, of course, is assuming that you genuinely respect and care about each other’s opinions and feelings. (If that’s not in place then you’ve got far more serious issues that need to be dealt with before even thinking about having more children.)   

Work through the Issues 

All couples will disagree about various things throughout their relationship—that’s normal and to be expected. After all, no two people see everything in exactly the same way. With many potentially heated topics, like which candidate will make the best president, you can usually just decide to agree to disagree when your viewpoints are polar opposites.   

However, the issue of whether or not to have more children is entirely different. It would be very unwise to ignore the issues, agree to disagree, and then go ahead and have another child. What you can do, and must do, is take the time and effort to work through the issues to determine if this is something you can mutually agree upon. 

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  1. Profile photo of Britney Britney says:

    I went through this with my husband. We have a blended family, and we both have custody of our respective children. I’ve always wanted 6 kids (I’ve always wanted to build a family through biological means and adoption) but I only had 1 and he had 2. He did not want any more children and obviously I still did. Before we got married we decided on the compromise that we would have 1 more child, unless our fins DRASTICALLY improved. I’m fortunate that my husband really loves children and wouldn’t mind having more if money was not an issue. I gave birth to our son just 4 weeks ago. It’s hard knowing that this is my last baby, but it makes me treasure every single moment with him.

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