Who’s in the Delivery Room?
Author: Jeannie Fleming-Gifford
It's almost show time! Every day you are getting closer and closer to your due date. You may be excited, scared, nervous, elated, and so, so much more. Chances are, friends and family are also looking forward to this big day. So the question is, who is going to be in the delivery room with you?
A recent search of the Internet uncovered a quirky blog about this topic. The real question this blog posed was whether or not men should be in the delivery room during the birthing process. Yes, these men would usually be the husband or significant other of those going through the birthing process. First, I was taken aback with the thought, "why shouldn't men be there?" Is there really a right answer?
Men and women are different. That is obvious. Each relationship is unique and you and your honey may have your differences once in a while. So, how will you both handle the pain, stress, and emotion of the child birthing process? It's an interesting question. Are there others - i.e. your mom, sister or best friend, whom you might find more soothing and supportive?
Maybe they all will be there. Some labor and delivery suites look more like a grand party than a hospital room. The gang is all there.
Other times, a woman may decide a hubby and another friend or family member is all they desire. The rest of the family and friends can wait outside. Or, they can even be called for a visit following the birth.
Remember, there is a lot that happens before, during, and after the childbirth process. This not only includes the medical procedures that may need to occur (i.e. episiotomy), but also those first moments following birth when you and your baby will be cleaned up and you may attempt to breastfeed. All of this can leave you a bit nervous. If having a ton of people as witness to this miracle makes you even more apprehensive, it's okay to make them wait.
As the pregnant one, your wishes trump all others. It's you and your body (and a lot of body there is during childbirth). Don't fret about making your wishes known. Parenthood will be full of times when you need to be (and will be) the only advocate for both you and your baby. This role starts now. Embrace it and even celebrate it.
Oh, and as for me, yes, I did let my hubby in the room. He is "okay" for a man (wink).