Who’s in the Delivery Room?

new mother with her new babyIt’s almost show time! Every day you are getting closer and closer to your due date. You may be excited, scared, nervous, elated, and so, so much more. Chances are, friends and family are also looking forward to this big day. So the question is, who is going to be in the delivery room with you?

A recent search of the Internet uncovered a quirky blog about this topic. The real question this blog posed was whether or not men should be in the delivery room during the birthing process. Yes, these men would usually be the husband or significant other of those going through the birthing process. First, I was taken aback with the thought, “why shouldn’t men be there?” Is there really a right answer?

Men and women are different. That is obvious. Each relationship is unique and you and your honey may have your differences once in a while. So, how will you both handle the pain, stress, and emotion of the child birthing process? It’s an interesting question. Are there others – i.e. your mom, sister or best friend, whom you might find more soothing and supportive?

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Maybe they all will be there. Some labor and delivery suites look more like a grand party than a hospital room. The gang is all there.

Other times, a woman may decide a hubby and another friend or family member is all they desire. The rest of the family and friends can wait outside. Or, they can even be called for a visit following the birth.

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Remember, there is a lot that happens before, during, and after the childbirth process. This not only includes the medical procedures that may need to occur (i.e. episiotomy), but also those first moments following birth when you and your baby will be cleaned up and you may attempt to breastfeed. All of this can leave you a bit nervous. If having a ton of people as witness to this miracle makes you even more apprehensive, it’s okay to make them wait.

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As the pregnant one, your wishes trump all others. It’s you and your body (and a lot of body there is during childbirth). Don’t fret about making your wishes known. Parenthood will be full of times when you need to be (and will be) the only advocate for both you and your baby. This role starts now. Embrace it and even celebrate it.

Oh, and as for me, yes, I did let my hubby in the room. He is “okay” for a man (wink).

What do you think?

Who’s in the Delivery Room?

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43 comments

  1. Profile photo of marissaki marissaki says:

    My husband will definitely be there. This is our 4th child and the others are 15, 13 and 9 roughly. I would love for my children to be nearby this time, as they are old enough to appreciate seeing their sibling as soon as possible, but my son is suddenly getting cold feet (13 years old). He is so excited to be having a baby brother and cannot wait to do a million things with him, but the idea of being in the hospital makes him nervous and perhaps he worries about seeing a baby so “new”. Although I would not subject them to the full L&D frontal, I think being nearby would be nice. I told all the children that we will respect their wishes.

    As for my husband… he tends to freeze up in any medical situation, so I do not rely on him to advocate for me. Rather, I give him instructions on how he might actually be helpful. He was mortified during my first labor, very laid back during the second and surprisingly clueless during the third:-) He managed to pull through, and I like having my partner with me, no matter what his level of involvement, so long as he is eager to be by my side.

  2. Only my husband will be there, anyone else would just stress me out more.

  3. Profile photo of Dario Dario says:

    I want and going to be there

  4. Profile photo of Ana Ana says:

    ever since I became pregnant I knew I wanted my mom and my hubby to be in the room but as the time gets closer and closer I want my mother-in-law in there to because she’s had 6 kids and each of her daughters have 4 kids so im pretty shur she knows what she’s doing and that’s always comforting for a first time mom like me

  5. My hospital only allowed two people. I asked my husband and my mom to go in with me. However, I had a last minute C-section and my husband was the only one allowed.

  6. Profile photo of Marilyn Marilyn says:

    I only need my bf there and I guess my mom can be there if she wants. I don’t know yet.

  7. still haven’t decided on the 3rd person I’m allowed. Bf, my mom and unknown. But I know for sure that despite how theyve done previous births on his side of the family, neither of my bfs parents will be in there. He’s crazy for suggesting it.

  8. My memory of delivering my first is having both my dad and my spouse in the room with me, and my dad clearing my long hair away from my face, and making the most bizarre comment ever… "Wow. I never noticed that you have small ears." ….. Here I was about 10 minutes from delivery, and this? It’s still one of my fondest memories of the whole experience. With my second, it would be almost odd not to have him there again, as well as my hubby.

  9. Profile photo of Kim Kim says:

    my mother expects me to have her in the room with me like i did with my first. but when i had Anthony, i was 16 and terrified. this time, i know what to expect, for the most part, since every pregnancy and delivery is different. I want it to just be me and my boyfriend.

  10. Profile photo of Melissa Melissa says:

    Well since I’m having a c-section only my husband is allowed in the delivery room with me. I have to admit I like this because this way I don’t feel guilty about telling other family members that I just want it to be myself and my husband. Is that bad? I just feel like this is a very intimate moment that should be shared with just the 2 of us. After a few hours I don’t mind family and friends coming to see the baby and us. It’s just those first few hours that you get to spend with your significant other and your newborn seem to be absolutely perfect.

  11. Profile photo of Asia Asia says:

    My husband is going to be in the delivery room with me…I really dont anyone else with me…its our time as parents to bond with the baby before we go home and get bombarded with visitors.

  12. Profile photo of Jasmine Jasmine says:

    Just me and the daddy … i was in the room for a family member and realized how vulnerable you are when givimg birth decided that the less there the better… the only other person id even consider is my father he can always keep me strong…. but he a little to far…

  13. Profile photo of MamaCat MamaCat says:

    For my first and for my second who is due in a few months it will just be their daddy and I. If my labor runs long this time I have a close friend who wil sit with me to break dad but that’s it. Everyone else can visit when we get home.

  14. I only want my wife in the room and I want to call friends and family AFTER he arrives. I don’t see the point in having them all stand around outside the room for hours and hours…I think it’s personal family time and we should be allowed to enjoy it before being bombarded with visitors. I just wish these people would respect my decision.

  15. Profile photo of verochka31 verochka31 says:

    just my husband………………….the only other person who helped make the baby. don’t need on lookers and an audiance…………..

  16. Profile photo of melissa melissa says:

    My first baby i was nervous only wanted my kids dad and my mom but once i got my epidural i didnt care who was in the room it just ment more people i could yell at during contractions

  17. Profile photo of Anber Anber says:

    I only want my husband to be in the room with me.

  18. Profile photo of KeahnaBester KeahnaBester says:

    mom and sisters with a close friend in the waiting room

  19. I want my fiance, my mom and my sister for my first 🙂

  20. for my 2nd ill have my husband,mother and sister in the rooom

  21. Profile photo of Anna Anna says:

    I don’t want anyone but my hubby

  22. Profile photo of Angelwings Angelwings says:

    whether he likes it or not Munchkin’s dad will be in the room with me the whole time no if’s, and’s, or buts about. My one rule I have.

  23. Profile photo of Mommy2Be Mommy2Be says:

    I want only Baby father && My mother . Anyone else in the room would feel weird

  24. I just want the father & my mother & sister in the room. That’s enough.

  25. Profile photo of bestmommy bestmommy says:

    In my delivery room my kids father will be there, my two sisters,and my mother.

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