Planning Sex When You Are Trying to Conceive
by Stef Daniel
It’s funny really, how something that used to bring you such pleasure and enjoyment is now scheduled as diligently as a dental exam. There are hundreds of myths and old wives tales floating around the prenatal circles that seem to indicate that having sex in the wrong way can hold you up for conceiving. Plus, you have read the books that show you which positions are best for sex, how to ensure you have a boy or girl (depending on your wishes), and the best way to keep the sperm in. Really, when did sex become so difficult? Talk about taking the passion out of a relationship. Many couples trying to conceive certainly do it with robotic deliberation. So, does how you have sex really make or break fertility? Experts say it can.
For one thing, doctors say that the best position for pregnancy is the ‘rear entry’ position. The reason is because in this position, women have a tipped uterus which will help hold the sperm into the uterus. If you don’t enjoy this position, don’t worry – you can get the same results from lying on your stomach after sex for 10-15 minutes. In fact, experts suggest that women who are trying to get pregnant stay reclined after sex to allow ALL the sperm to reach the uterus before gravity and urination wash some of the slower swimmers out. The only problem with this theory is that jumping up and down after sex is definitely NOT a form of birth control, which proves you can get pregnant no matter what you do.
Another important aspect of having sex when you are trying to conceive is when you have sex. You have seen all those ads where the woman calls her husband and says, “It’s time!” And yes, having sex at the exact moment of ovulation is great. The problem is that while we are pretty good at predicting ovulation, you might not get it exactly right. This is why it is important to have sex 3 days before ovulation, on the day of, and on the day after. This way all of your bases are pretty much covered. Plus, the sperm that made it to the uterus prior to an egg being released may be able to live long enough to catch the egg as soon as it arrives.
You would think that having sex every day would be the easiest way to conceive. Unfortunately, this isn’t so. For one thing, you aren’t fertile every day. But more importantly, giving yourself a break between intercourse allows your spouse to build up sperm counts ensuring that his fellows are fast and furious as they make their way to the uterus. If you over do it with sex, the sperm can be sluggish and be present in low numbers. So, give your man a break from time to time.
Remember that sex is supposed to be fun whether you are trying to conceive or not. Rather than just doing it in a methodical fashion, allow yourself to relax and enjoy the experience. Sexual analysts suggest that enjoying sex and maintaining the quality of your sex life when you are trying to conceive goes miles for reducing your stress – which can help you stay fertile longer.
What do you think? Planning Sex When You Are Trying to Conceive